The worst thing for your 15 year old nephew is to be given this choice
For quite a while, Stbx had been dropping hints that he was thinking about moving and was going to try to take the kids with him and I had NEVER mentioned any of that to any of the kids. That court hearing was the first time I heard that he had spoken to DS about this and all I knew from that hearing was that DS had indicated that he would like to move with stbx.
After the hearing, I came home and told DS about the issue that had been raised in court that day and I asked him about the events leading up to it -- which is how I know about the homes/school stuff. All of a sudden, DS just breaks down in tears......and as I was hugging him and telling him that it was okay, I also asked him which part of *this* was he so upset about?
His exact response was: "Because I said yes" and started crying harder.
It was heart-breaking."Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.