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User Topic: He's "happy"
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my sitch, the only person who got results from pushing me was my IC - she knew what to say and how to say it. There was a time when she was the only person with whom I felt safe which is why I didn't leave her even after she pissed me off countless times.

Is your WH in IC?


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"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 5935 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
AML04
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is but he even acknowledges that his IC doesn't push him. His sessions are like two buddies playing catch up. He's going to look for a new one. Thanks so much for taking the time to help me.


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 870 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He definitely needs a new IC, for sure. I left my first IC because she was just too complacent and I could bullshit her every way to Sunday. I knew if I was going to really, really change, I needed someone who was going to make me uncomfortable and face my own stuff. He needs that. If we're not uncomfortable, we don't grow.

And you're welcome.


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

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