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Topic: One year

Pass
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Member # 38122

Posted: 11:55 PM, November 15th (Friday), 2013

It's after midnight. I guess I made it through the day all okay.

A few tears, a few glasses of wine, not a lot of work - but I made it. Not sure what I thought was going to happen.

Thanks so much, everyone!

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 10 and 13
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

Posts: 1227 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

cookiegrl
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Member # 38647

Posted: 12:04 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013

Glad to hear you are doing okay. (((pass)))

Me: BW
Him: WH
Married 7 years
2 awesome kids, 6 and 4
D-Day #1 2/28/13
D-Day #2 10/21/13
Separated but in MC
Courage is not the absence of fear. It's acting in the face of fear.

Posts: 34 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Florida

stronger08
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Member # 16953

Posted: 2:05 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013

Brother, the first year for me was a disaster. I meandered through life lost in my own little fog. The second year I found my balls and regained my strength. It was a year of acceptance, fighting back and growth for me. The third year is when I started to live fully once again. This shit takes time. One big mistake is to place a time period on your healing. You will heal when your ready and don't think that because its been a year already its time for you to feel better. One thing that helped me was to take each day as it came. I had my highs and my lows during that time. But I always said to myself that with each day I grow stronger. I'm not going to lie to you and say it goes away for good. Its always going to be there. But in time you learn to live with it and sometimes when you look back you kind of laugh about the whole thing. I'm many years out and now I can see just how comically absurd the whole thing was. Just take it one day at a time and you will be fine. My D-day antiversary now comes and goes without me even thinking about it. Two weeks later I'll say "Shit, my D-day was three weeks ago." And the truth is it passed without a thought. You will get there, don't rush your healing.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5327 | Registered: Nov 2007

crisp
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Member # 34236

Posted: 5:57 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013

What Stronger said.

Posts: 283 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: NE US

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