Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying



Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library


Contact Us
In Association with
Infidelity -
like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
Newest Member: JRconfused (45363)

Divorce/Separation Post Reply     Print Topic    
User Topic: One year
♂ Member
Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's after midnight. I guess I made it through the day all okay.

A few tears, a few glasses of wine, not a lot of work - but I made it. Not sure what I thought was going to happen.

Thanks so much, everyone!

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

Posts: 2110 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ New Member
Member # 38647
Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad to hear you are doing okay. (((pass)))

Me: BW
Him: WH
Married 8 years
2 awesome kids, 7 and 4
D-Day #1 2/28/13
D-Day #2 10/21/13
Courage is not the absence of fear. It's acting in the face of fear.

Posts: 35 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Florida
♂ Member
Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 2:05 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brother, the first year for me was a disaster. I meandered through life lost in my own little fog. The second year I found my balls and regained my strength. It was a year of acceptance, fighting back and growth for me. The third year is when I started to live fully once again. This shit takes time. One big mistake is to place a time period on your healing. You will heal when your ready and don't think that because its been a year already its time for you to feel better. One thing that helped me was to take each day as it came. I had my highs and my lows during that time. But I always said to myself that with each day I grow stronger. I'm not going to lie to you and say it goes away for good. Its always going to be there. But in time you learn to live with it and sometimes when you look back you kind of laugh about the whole thing. I'm many years out and now I can see just how comically absurd the whole thing was. Just take it one day at a time and you will be fine. My D-day antiversary now comes and goes without me even thinking about it. Two weeks later I'll say "Shit, my D-day was three weeks ago." And the truth is it passed without a thought. You will get there, don't rush your healing.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5730 | Registered: Nov 2007
♂ Member
Member # 34236
Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What Stronger said.

Endeavor to persevere.

Posts: 410 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: NE US
Topic Posts: 24
Pages: 1 · 2

Return to Forum: Divorce/Separation Post Reply to this Topic
Go to :
© 2002 - 2014 All Rights Reserved.