Older women really are invisible to the majority of men their age. This is obvious on any OLD site.
[This message edited by shiloe at 3:13 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]
Add me to the list of people with a positive Match experience. Out of the 6 guys I met, all were second and third date material. I was able to filter out the weirdos ahead of time.
I'm dating an awesome guy now that I met online. It can be a needle in a haystack of find someone you want to date exclusively, but there are good people out there just like you.
In my opinion, you might meet a few stinkers, but if you keep your investment minimal in early stages and go into it with the idea of getting to know someone better vs. finding a relationship, you should be fine.
I agree there are scumbags who use the service, but there are also genuine people trying to connect.
I met some fascinating folk on line. Have remained friendly with a few as well.
[This message edited by Catwoman at 6:54 AM, November 18th (Monday)]
You have to assume that there is going to be a lot of rejection and you can't take it personally.
You will be contacted by a lot of weirdos. They might be obvious weirdos or ones that show their weirdness later on. Expect it. Don't freak out over it. Laugh at it. Sometimes that's the fun part!
You have, have, HAVE to do a lot of screening of anyone you meet. For me that meant emailing and talking to the person up front. I had to know their full name, where they worked, snoop on them via the internet, etc. If I couldn't get at least some sort of independent verification of them outside of OLD then I didn't meet them.
I had the mindset that it was 2-3 dates and NO MORE. Period! That way I was able to not care if the guy poofed. Truly - it made a huge difference in my whole perspective. If we had 2 dates and he started flaking on communication.... I was like "eh... he only had one more coming anyway."
For me personally I was also able to not get attached because I didn't sleep with them in the first 3 dates but YMMV.
My current SO made it so long because after 3 dates I stopped seeing him and moved on... but he kept in touch with me. Then I sort of put him back in the rotation after I had a last minute cancellation for a concert I had tickets to.... so for his second round of 3 dates - well, he grew on me enough that I decided he was a keeper.
Try it! It can be fun and there ARE some really great people out there. Just take your time and be choosy.
Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.
He asked me to go to his Xmas party I have not agree yet. But we do plan a drive to the mountains to have a dinner for his BD, I like him so far.... But it won't hurt me if he poofs...
I did online dating off and on for years. The best part was the convenience of meeting a bunch of people at once. I had limited free time for dating so I liked being able to read profiles and get to know people during the week before having weekend dates. In the end, I met my SO.
I never tried any of the paid sites, but of the free ones, I enjoyed OKC the best. pof and craigslist had too many players. But then again, even the free sites vary by location. If you have time, check them all out!
I was shocked at how much I enjoyed the experience, and how nice it was to be able to discover ladies who were on the same sheet of music as I was with regard to interests, philosophy of life, etc. Always emailed/talked on the phone extensively before meeting, and went from there...
Good luck to you, and hope you find the OLD experience rewarding!
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...