We all wish we hadn't been shoved down this path, but it's the one we're on now and we have to do our best. Which you are.
For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot
I could say I chose R because for me it's 'easier' than D, but that's just another way of saying I looked at my options, still loved my W, saw that my W was committed to doing the necessary work to R, so I chose R.
Bottom line: You need - and already have, though you may not yet realize it - a lot of strength now. Choose the outcome that you want and think is possible.
[This message edited by sisoon at 12:41 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]
Like any road after an A, it's hard. But it's an experience you can learn and grow from in ways you never imagined.
There will be tough times, tears, still some WTF moments, but at the end of the day there is also peace.
I hope you both find it, together.