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User Topic: New job, nervous and excited
Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I gave my two weeks notice to my current employer.

Just a little background. I'm a consultant with a fairly large firm. I was told awhile back that I was not funded past Jan/Feb on my current project. I've had some issues with my team lead and career manager. Seems like they basically wrote me off when I was struggling through the D despite my track record and that my work has been ahead of schedule for some time now.

A friend gave someone with another company a copy of my resume and they called me. One 30 minute phone interview later and they made me offer. Work from home for more money than my current job pays. However, the offer letter was contingent on a few things and the shutdown interrupted it. Nearly two months later they reached out to me and asked how soon I can start.

I know I can do the job they hired me for. I've got the experience and the skills. Hands down. I am feeling some anxiety about the change of job though. To complicate things even more I heard when I gave my notice that other project managers have been asking when I would be available. Apparently they wanted me for projects if/when they get funding and my name is at the top of the list of a few potential projects. Unfortunately I only just heard this in the past couple weeks. Most of it the day I gave my notice.

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 9:02 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]


xBH
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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations on the new job.

Don't keep second-guessing yourself because of what you heard today. Be flattered that maybe other project managers have been asking about you, because it reflects well on your abilities, but remember why you wanted to leave in the first place. Those reasons haven't changed.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a perfect fit Brandon! Congrats! So excited for you! Change is always scary, but it sounds like you are ready for this one. Go get em!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks inconnu and persevere

The encouragement means a lot.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Lyonesse
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! A good person will always be in demand.

Just continue to do your best in the new gig. Either it will lead to more things there, or the other managers at your old place will jump at the chance to get you back.

I also took the leap to a new job I didn't expect, post-infidelity. It's been great to feel like a competent human being again. I think you'll love a fresh start where you are appreciated!


Me: BS, 40's.

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks and congratulations to you too Lyonesse

[This message edited by Brandon808 at 10:01 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]


xBH
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cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Take the sure thing. The place you're working for let you down. And scary change is usually the sort where you reap the most benefits.

And more money is nothing to sneeze at either!


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If your a consultant then your a hired gun. You go where the money is. If your former firm was that interested in retaining you they would have made an offer and negotiate in good faith. While consulting pays very well it does not give you any sort of stability. And when corners need to be cut consultants are usually the first to go. So in that spirit you have to maximize your income while your working. Because you never know when you might be out of a work for an extended amount of time. During my career I've hired consultants many times. Many of those I've offered permanent positions to. I have always liked the idea of shopping an open position to consultants. I'd offer a 6 month contract and if it works out I may hire them full time. If not once the contract expires we part ways. Much easier doing that then hiring a full time employee and having to fire them because they cant do the job. Saves a manager all sorts of HR bullshit. Good luck on your new position.


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

cayc,
You're right on both counts

stronger,
My apologies for not being clearer. I am a full-time permanent hire with a consulting firm so I'm not working on a contract basis.


xBH
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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck Brandon. I'm in a similar situation and considering several options. It can be scary but in the end as long as you land on your feet it always ends up being an improvement.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks gahurts. Good luck to you too. It's always good to have options, isn't it?


xBH
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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations.
I agree with the others, stay the course with the new job.
Change can be great, especially if it gives you even more work experience to add to the resume.
Wow, cannot believe your current TL just wrote you off because of the D rollercoaster. I feel blessed and guilty that my employers were so understanding.
You can do this!!!!


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks StillLivin


xBH
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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!!

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks jo!

I'm waiting on my new laptop to be delivered to me. I already have my new email set up and attended some online training so I'll be hitting the ground running. My home office is shaping up very nicely too.


xBH
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