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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

UPDATE ON PAGE 2
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I've been waiting to hear three little words. They came today, but with a fourth one, unwanted, tagged on.

"It's not cancer...yet."

I guess that's a good thing? Still wrapping my mind around it. It's messing with the new dream career, the one where I was supposed to be moving to a developing nation next week.

Surgery is scheduled, and fortunately I'm working with a really good specialist, one of the best in the area from what my doctor tells me. He's confident that he can remove all of the abnormal cells, the precancerous ones.

Like I told a friend the other day, when your life plan involves getting divorced at 27, hearing you might have cancer at 29 seems like the next logical step, right?

I'm surprisingly zen about it. I know it'll all work out how it's supposed to - just makes it tough to plan when I have movers coming next week, and flights already booked to the other side of the world, and work piling up on my new desk that I haven't even seen yet, and so much eagerness to get out of here and start the exciting new chapter that's waiting for me.

I'd love some healthy mojo.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 12:59 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

MOJO!!

Yes, it's a good thing. I know you're busy, and things are hectic, but it could always be worse.

It's a stupid fourth word, but try to remember the first three words. They could have been different, they could have been "It is cancer".

Yes, surgery stinks, but I felt blessed when I heard the same words, and had the three bad spots cut out. I had to have more stereotactic biopsies since, but I still haven't heard those three words. I hope you never do. A fourth word is a blessing.


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Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Covering you in prayer, Ama!

(((Amazonia)))

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mojo headed your way. It sounds like you are in good hands, and from what I understand about where you are going, there should be some good hands there as well. (((Ama)))

Posts: 3327 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending healing mojo your way!


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Ama)))

Sending you mojo good thoughts, and prayers.


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you mojo.

It is always hard to hear the you might have cancer no matter what the age. I was nearly 31 when I was told I had it and there were evidence that it had spread. It shook my world. My only advice is to stay on top of it and make sure your doctors know your history when you see them for anything.


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Posts: 51851 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending love and healing Ama.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whoa...

Have I been out of the loop or did you keep this to yourself???

Ama! you have all my prayers and healing thoughts!!


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Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
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R - he finally came home
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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

millions of hugs to you.

Remember: the important word is "NOT," not "yet."


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multiple d-days
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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jrc, I have mostly just discussed it with a few close people IRL. This is the first it's been online (anywhere...it's not going on fb at all )


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Keeping you in my prayers.


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((AMA))))))


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((AMA))))

mojo MoJo MOJO.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're in my thoughts.

I had precancerous cells removed 21 years ago. I remain vigilant, but I'm still taking names and kicking asses every single day.

You will, too. Please keep us posted.


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BrokenRoad
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs)))(((mojo))) and (((prayers)))


{Him}FBH - 43 (WifeHad5)
{Me} FWW - 43
2 kids 7 & 12
Reconciled :)
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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh. Sending strength.

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending healing thoughts and mojo your way!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ohmygoodness! (((((Ama)))))

Thinking about you and sending you healthy, healing mojo!!


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Default  Posted: 9:00 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm very happy your fourth word was a good one. It's good to have this taken care of now even with everything else you have going on. It seems like a lot to deal with but you can and will do it.

Along the way please make sure you don't push your recovery. Do what you can, as you can. It will make a difference.

Wishing you strength and healing thoughts.

LH (who's fourth word was metastic)


I release the past so I am free to fight for my future unencumbered.

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