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User Topic: Well, fuck me gently, she's an idiot
Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She somehow managed to delete ALL the photos from her computer: Every single picture of my boys from 2004 to the present.

I can't even think about it without weeping.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't touch the computer any further. If this just happened then it is possible to recover the pics. Deleting doesn't remove the data per se. It marks those locations in the memory as being available for new data to be stored there.


xBH
D final 8/2012

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sunsetslost
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What Brandon808 said. Get it to an IT guy soon. I don't know what you're running but some programs will delete after a certain amount of time. Don't mean to add more stress by setting a deadline. Just trying to help. Good luck my friend


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfortunately she did this about six months ago. She deleted the account on the computer that had all the pictures on it. She just tried to look at the pictures now and was shocked that they weren't there.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Still may be salvageable, pass. Seriously - take it to an IT guru. It's worth a shot, right?


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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might be able to retrieve the files if there is a system restore point from before she deleted the account. It's worth a shot.

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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She deleted the account on the computer that had all the pictures on it

If all she did was delete the account, odds are that the pics are still there, just residing in a path/folder you cannot readily see. And even if she deleted the folder they were in before deleting the account, if she only hit the "delete" button they are not gone permanently and can probably be recovered. There are lots of recovery programs out there, but if you are not comfortable trying this, go to an IT person.


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've suggested this to her now (thanks, guys!), but she REFUSES to try. Since I found out about her cheating by "snooping", she won't take my advice on anything computer-related.

Just one more way that I have ruined our lives by discovering that she couldn't keep her knees together.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass
What about the camera the pictures were taken from. Are the pictures still on the memory cards?


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've suggested this to her now (thanks, guys!), but she REFUSES to try. Since I found out about her cheating by "snooping", she won't take my advice on anything computer-related.
Red flag alert!!! I don't buy that excuse for a minute. There is probably additional evidence of her A and she doesn't want you to find it.


xBH
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If she's deleted the account from the computer, they are gone. I did this to ex-h on the former family computer....erased all his pics and work stuff. I consulted wtih and IT guy and there was nothing to recover.

Sorry, Pass. :(


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DDay 10/7/11
OW
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Pass
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Brandon, I have no doubt that what you're saying is true. She has confessed to NOTHING - she has even backpedalled on what I caught her in. So I'm sure she has many secrets she needs to keep from me.

Not that I want the secrets anymore. She's a slut, may have always been one, always will be one. Now that I've accepted that, her secrets are only SORT OF secrets. That doesn't stop her from wanting to keep them though.


That's a good idea, Still, but we threw out that camera shortly before DDay.


I swear, y'all keep coming up with good ideas for me, but I'm just no help to myself.

Thanks again.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, Meg.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What she did is cruel. I'm sorry, pass.

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5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass, just curious. Why are you talking to her at all outside of kids and finances?

Yes, it's sad that she deleted the pictures. Don't you think she knew that it would bother you if she told you?

Stay strong brother. She keeps throwing and you keep catching. Get out of the game!


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What the computer forensics guy was able to recover off of X's supposedly wiped-clean hard drive was gold. He found approximately 7,000 pornographic images that X was certain couldn't be found. The look on X's face and the face of his lawyer when I said in court that images had been found was priceless.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
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Pass
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You may be onto something, 5454: She just finds out the pics are gone after 6 months, she refuses all help and advice I have to offer, says it's MY fault that she can't accept help or advice. This may just be her trying to twist the knife again.

Her recent efforts have gone unrewarded, so this could be her new and improved attempt.

If that's the case, I may need to retract the word "idiot" from this topic title and replace it with "manipulative twat".


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Who is in possession of this computer? If you have possession of it or can get possession of it I would still take it to an expert. Until it has been thoroughly looked at I would not take anyone else's word for the fact that they are supposedly gone.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's a big part of me that thinks these photos are residing on a jump drive somewhere and that she has indeed "accidently" erased them from the computer.

You know, that way she's not lying.

AJ's MOM


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Pass,

You do

need to retract the word "idiot" from this topic title and replace it with "manipulative twat".

Everything she does as it regards her interactions with you should be viewed as

her trying to twist the knife again.

In all of her history with you, has she ever displayed true empathy? Concern for another human being without regard to how she will look?

She's not a nice person.


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

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