But if he'd have been one tenth as nice to me as he was to her I'd repaid it 1,000 fold - like I had for the first ten years of our marriage. Makes me want to smash up the wedding China.
Mine never moved much beyond that initial infantile response. I hope yours does.
him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis
4 kids 15 13 12 8
Earned my *F* the hard way; no longer defining mysel
If he had spent 1/4 of the time he gave OW doing shit to help out, I would have had to a of time for him. God they are idiots!!!!!!
For me it got so bad that I told him to please move his handgun out of the top drawer because every stressed out day when I would wonder why he wouldn't lift a finger to help me I would contemplate shooting myself.
He moved the gun. He still didn't come home during the kids' waking hours/didn't help. Of course why would he when he had someone NICE to spend time with.
yeah she would be nice to you. She didn't have to do a damn thing for your lazy ass.
It's the fantasy of it all.
Then she has to wash the shit stained underwear or has to spray your monkey butt with gold bond.
That's the dream.
And, yes, their new feelings of being in lurve are completely built on a fantasy. It's the ones that had their back all those years, who stuck by them even when they were being complete, selfish jerks. All of our loyalty and all of our virtues that made them fall in love with us in the first place gets swept up and tossed out the door.
Best of luck dealing with this narcissist.
This was after DDay#1. I told him confirmation comes from within, and one of the big reasons I didn't give him the confirmation he needed is because he didn't give ME that either! After 15 years of constantly needing to give HIM the attention, give HIM the toys, give HIM the nights out with friends....I was DONE. So what does he do? He bails. ugh. And he didn't get it...
After DDay#2, he got it. He realized how checked out he was and how hard I was trying. And he realized he wasn't getting what he wanted anymore from her. The mystery and secrecy was gone from their relationship, so it was so special anymore. Good. Jerk.