Things are falling into place from events I'd forgotten from years ago to what happened before during and after the A that I know of and from what fwh has told me
Ok, first thing to say is I know it's fwh who broke his vows and OW is not responsible to me etc etc etc
But she hated me for years and sought to destroy me and fwh was weak and vulnerable and bloody ill and wasn't that hard to manipulate.
This all started in April 2009 when I had a very traumatic miscarriage and spent a protracted time in hospital and didn't get home until late the evening of dd (then 8)'s birthday
As a big treat for her once I was better I took a crowd of her friends out to the cinema and hired a Hummer and took them on a tour of the city. Was a blast. One kid who was there was OW's daughter
A few months later OW phoned me and asked for details re the Hummer hire company and then after realising she couldn't afford it gave out to me about how ridiculous it was to spend that money on a little kid's party and she couldn't afford it for her eldest sweet sixteen and had a real nasty snippy moan about it to me. At that time I didn't own any bitch boots so felt really, really guilty. What a crock
Fast forward years and she came to a party at my house, pretended to be my friend and befriended fwh on FB but ignore my friend request, pursued him with constant car problems that were always easy to fix and bitched continuously about me. Post dday she attacked me verbally, sent me texts after texts until I blocked her, attempting to take the moral high ground. FWH says she was always talking about me when they were together - about how it wasn't fair that he went home to me, that why should I have everything?
She was absolutely convinced he would leave me for her and then he would get custody of the kids (as he is main daytime carer for the 3 year old) and then the house and then she could move in and take my life. I know that from the stuff she said to me.
We are NC with her but she approached him recently and he ran away but I think we might need to get law/police involved as she stills thinks he wants her.
Hard to take that just for being me and being successful that someone would just want to destroy my life.Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...
"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."