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User Topic: He Finally get's it
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG! I cannot believe it. For the past couple of weeks my WH has had a complete turnaround. His business partner/ best friend just recently betrayed him. My WH feels EXACTLY the way I did when he betrayed me. My WH has sat me down to talk to me about his past actions and how he understands how badly he screwed our M up. He feels awful. I think I am seeing real remorse now. He has tears in his eyes when he says he can't believe what he did. I don't know why it is happening now, but we have had more than a few eye opening discussions and all I can say is I love this man and I am happy he gets it. I feel like my WH is back.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
In R
"If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth." -Carl Sagan

Posts: 2251 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
painpaingoaway
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Member # 27196
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you! Wonderful news!


me BS female 55/him WS 58
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 6763 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
BrokenMomof2
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Member # 41219
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so happy for you!

It is such a wonderful experience when we see a change for the better in our WS.


Me: BS, 30
Him: WH, 31, 1 month EA & PA
Married 9 years
Kids: 2 perfect boys
D-day: Nov 3, 2013
Working on R

Posts: 86 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: ND
Sammy2013
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Member # 41040
Default  Posted: 1:12 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad you are seeing positives! It does feel good when they get it. I felt and still feel hopeful when WS shows that he gets it. We had a long convo tonight and he totally portrayed a WS who gets it. It was emotionally exhausting (the talks usually are), but I feel better about him and us.

Here's to continued forward momentum!!


WH -37
BS (me) 38
Married 12 years, 3 kiddos
Up to 4 DDays. Prostitutes, 2 affairs, SA diagnosis now with 1 relapse so far (massage parlor with happy ending).
Waiting, observing, working on me.

Posts: 195 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southeast United States
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh crazyblindsided....this is wonderful news indeed. I have seen how you love your husband, how much you are willing to do to save your M....it warms my heart that your husband is ready to fully accept the gift you are willing to give him.

God be with you both.


ME: 42 BH
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012 by 1 email to OM...OM did NOT respond.
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred...may never incur.

Posts: 2711 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Finally!!!!

Isn't it wonderful??


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: R? I don't know..ask me tomorrow..it changes rapidly.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 6669 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
rachelc
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Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 5:58 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CBS - that's great honey!! what a burden lifted.


his Ddays: 2/10, 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me: 47
him: 51
4 kiddos in lower 20's

“Grief does not change you, Hazel. It reveals you.”


Posts: 3673 | Registered: Dec 2010
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you so much everyone! It feels like relief. I feel excited. We have been having A LOT of Affair conversations, initiated by him, and I just am ecstatic about this.

I healed myself first and he sees that. He knows I got here on my own and a part of him is sorry he didn't help me more. He doesn't even recognize who he was back then. He also discussed going back to IC

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 12:42 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)]


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
In R
"If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth." -Carl Sagan

Posts: 2251 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
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