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User Topic: A smart person will drive themselves crazy...
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know I think I'm really starting to see the gaslighting. He's mentioned many times that sites like this aren't good for me because I start over analyzing. He actually told me last night "you think too much"! Oh yes "thinking" is a bad thing....cause I might just figure him out!


I also find it curious that all his behaviors mimic those that continue to be deceitful rather than the spouses that are generally remorseful.


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh the laughing so clear in my mind. A year before DD I point blank asked if he was seeing ow , I said her nam. He leaned back and put his hands over his head and laughed, he literally said,.if I was gonna trade, I would trade up not down. But it was the cocky way he said it, his body language, the wayhe said her name 3 times as a question. Ow? Ow? Really, you think I'm seeing ow? It was like he was getting a kick out of saying her name. Idk he s a fuckface


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4932 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

cl131716 these WS's never cease to amaze me. When I had discovered WH's A with MOW he told me it was EA. I discovered 5 months later it was EA/PA My WH swore on our kids lives that his A was not PA. Mine also said this site just made my attitude worse and trigger more. Mine did quite the acting as well until the curtain closed.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
cl131716
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ostrich- The story you told about him laughing....so very much the same as mine! When I first told him I felt uncomfortable about their exchanges he laughed and said, "OW? She's old! There is nothing going in with her! It's not even like that!"

A week later I saw the messages about her having no eggs for his swimmers and how they liked sex (slow or hard). Also every time she made a comment about being old he would say to her, "you are not old! Age is just a number, quit saying you are old!"

That evening when I asked if they ever talked about anything sexual he said no not that I can recall. I asked if he was sure and he replied yes I don't ever remember any convos like that. So I refreshed his memory with the screenshots I took. Again he laughed and said it was only a joke and harmless flirting! When I asked why he lied he said because obviously it wasn't important enough to remember. O.....M....G!!!!


Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
"A clear and innocent conscience fears nothing."

Posts: 935 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Oklahoma
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 4:07 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So I refreshed his memory with the screenshots I took. Again he laughed and said it was only a joke and harmless flirting! When I asked why he lied he said because obviously it wasn't important enough to remember. O.....M....G!!!!

Oh no that's you over reacting because your insecure and just trying to start shit....NOT!!!! I think they are long lost twins lol


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4932 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Kalliopeia
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My father was an epic cheater. He was with his girlfriend when I was born. He named me after her.

my mother only found out way later.

Anyway, she told me that after he had been out running around ( cheating and back in the morning) he would beat her and accuse her of cheating.

She always knew he had slept with someone the night before when he came home and did that.

She divorced him and remarried a few years later. My step dad loved her to pieces and not once made her doubt him.

imo, your husband just put a sign on himself that says "i am still cheating on you."


Posts: 478 | Registered: Mar 2012
Scubachick
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! My husband says I think too much and should stop reading sites like these and all my infidelity books. He said it's making me crazy...I said no, you are making me crazy.

He can remember what he didn't do or say during his EA but develops amnesia when it comes to remembering what he did say or do. I can ask him things like, did you walk her to her car? His answer is "no, absolutely not". But if I ask him how he asked her to meet him at the casino...was it by text, phone call or in person at work? He says "I can't remember but I think it was in person at work...probably... I'm not sure though". He's such a chicken shit liar.

I want to believe so badly that he had no feelings for her at all like he swears he didn't. I just can't allow myself to believe it though. If he had no feelings for her, he wouldn't have hid her name in his contacts and he wouldn't have been hiding their 1400 texts a month. He would have mentioned her name to me if it was so innocent. Although she sticks to his story and I never found any sexual texts, why would she think him bringing me into the business when I became suspicious was his way of trying to get her to quit? I hate this crap. It would be so much easier if he just admitted he was attracted her or had feelings for her. My husband laughed also when I first asked him about her. He said he could hardly stand to look at her because he said she has this piece of meat sticking out between her front teeth (she's got big gaps between her teeth and I assume he means her gums when he says meat). That piece of meat didn't stop him from meeting her 4 times at 330 am after work!!!


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