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User Topic: Mow is following wh on Instagram
crazyblindsided
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Angry  Posted: 12:45 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When do these OW stop? MOW is following my WH's business Instagram. My WH had no idea it was even her. Her name is very incognito. Do you all think this thing may be underground or is it just the MOW causing drama? I am so confused. My WH is being forthcoming and transparent has blocked her. He's not acting strange and his GPS is where it should be. I don't want to go into detective mode, I really hate that feeling, but my PTSD causes me to become paranoid and this new discovery has me paranoid.

I just wrote a positive post the other day too. I don't feel out of control like I normally would so I know my therapy and medication has helped me immensely. I feel like I am prepared for ANY outcome. Did I say why won't this MOW stop?

[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 12:46 PM, November 21st (Thursday)]


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sounds like he's doing the right things and this is a desperate attempt on her part.

Try to ignore it. giving her any attention is giving her exactly what she wants.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8077 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree.
Try your best to separate her actions from your reactions at this point.
They will try to reach out, and they may throw tantrums because they are not getting attention. The less attention you pay to it, the less unnecessary anxiety it can cause.

You did not reach out. Your H did not reach out- and he blocked her.
The only two people that matter here have acted appropriately.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you tushnurse and Wondertwin. I reacted a little towards WH, but I did not reach out to MOW. There is NC firmly in place.

I will not react to her and I will never give her power over me ever again. Although I did get a upset at first I am now back to being ME


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 6:07 AM, November 22nd (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder just how healthy a person can get after an affair.

My wifes AP is onto another woman...have no idea if she is married, but he still is.

Are we kidding ourselves that people can turn away from this choice?

Because at the end of the day it takes two willing adults to choose this.

As I look into my own FOO fears....I think I can grow past them, mature out of them....but they are strongly engrained in me. The FOO issues within my wife influenced her choices just like mine do to my choices.

just because we know better doesn't mean we will choose to do better....I get that. But I wonder if some people are unable to choose differently?

Still have doubts.....question my growth, the growth of my M, and certainly the growth of my wife. I see some growth....but am very concerned I am seeing what I want to see rather than what I am really looking at. KWIM?

May be a control issue for me? For you?

I know I wished my wifes AP could keep it in his pants because the more he engages in his destructive ways the greater risk my girls are at of finding out about what their Mom did. We live in a small town, he has 5 kids and a wife that wrestles with alcohol abuse. The shit could hit the fan and I have little control over this...

I do have some control....we could tell our daughters more of the truth...but 6 and 9 years old seems too young to handle more than what we have shared with them......

God be with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

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