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I need to read this several times.
I wish I had found SI on D-Day instead of 6 months later.
I wish I had could have read nomadlady's research paper on D-Day instead of several years later.
Both would have saved a lot of grief. I didn't do everything wrong; I did some things very right. But this site and articles like this would have made the path more clear. It's just plain hard to think straight when you're hit with a cheating spouse after 35 yrs of M.
Thank you. You nailed it all.
Great words of wisdom. Now I just need to follow them myself.
Very clear and precise. Makes a good read for everyone. I love this post. Thank you so much :)
What a incredible post. Thank you for that. I agree, it should perhaps go into the Healing Library. All new BS to SI should read it. Let's keep it going. .....
Very very good post, easy to read but covers all of the important aspects of betrayal. I think it will help new BSs feel more "normal" with the inevitable emotions they will sadly go through at the beginning.
Agreed, this needs to stay at the top!
Bravo, I think this will give a lot of people strength. And ultimately, that's all we want.
Wow! You are a great researcher, what I wouldn't of done to have read this when I had just found out!
This really needs to be in both the Healing Library and the JUST FOUND OUT forum!
Mods, please don't let this gem get lost..
All veryy true. Great job.
Nomad - I'm impressed. Very well covered. This is definitely good advice whether your a newbie or been here for a while.
Another vote for the Healing Library.
Excellent summary of what the BS deals with. Good read for all.
I scrolled through and took screen shots of the whole thing so that I can go back and reread it.
That was extremely well done. Thank you.
Thank you for taking the time.
So concise and to the point.
Thank you so much for this. you are certainly in the right career field and am sure you are successful
This is another vote for the Healing Library.
Great Post Nomad - Thank you.
Seriously, Nomad. You've only been on SI since September and have only 22 posts, and you can write this?? You are nothing less than a genius. No more words, other than thank you.
Seriously, Nomad. You've only been on SI since September and have only 22 posts, and you can write this?? You are nothing less than a genius.
If not added to the Healing Library, this looks like the start of a second career as an author! You've managed to sum it all up, clearly and concisely. Wow! While I know all of this to be true already, it helps to see it there, all wrapped up with a nice little bow.
Yep, the risks are high. I'm cautious and not a gambler by nature... so why on earth am I trying to R? Can you take that on in "Chapter 2"? Actually, you can skip the diagnosis... I think I already know... sigh.
Keep up the great posts. I look forward to reading more. Best of luck with your journey.
Excellent. Thank you.
Bumped to the top.
This is brilliant. I wish I had seen something this clear, and so accurate, at dday 1. Certainly the part about staying friends = high risk. I could have dealt with it there and then, and not had dday 2.
On the other hand, according to this analysis, chances of R are high for me/us, as WW appears to be doing all the right things, and doing them without any prompting by me. And keeps saying how ashamed she is about her choices, both of having a PA and the particular low-lfe OM.
So thank you for posting.