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Great post! Thank you!!
Omygosh exactly what I needed to read today. Going to bookmark this one for sure..thanks, thanks, thanks!
Just wanted to add my enthusiatic praise. Really wonderful. Thank you.
This was so on point!! Thank you a million times over
Right on! Excellent post that really lays it out.
I so relate to trying to figure out the "Why it happened". That has taken me so long to accept that and as you pointed out, comes from that part of me that wants to fix it and is having a hard time letting go. I finally have come to the conclusion that he is very wounded and does not realize it. He acts out of that place, there was nothing I could do. I was blindsided by his affair, everyone was shocked. He is very good at deception.
I choose to divorce my husband, my mediation is in April. Not an easy choice but the only one I could make. I filed a year ago and the road has definitely had it's ups and downs.
I am 14 months out and am starting to feel that my heart is healing. I found my laughter again, I have moments of great happiness and relish my freedom. I have tremendous gratitude that I am not with my STBX and I still have moments of great sadness that I am not with him. And the hurt still bubbles up but doesn't consume me like it did before. Life does move on.
I really hope your post can go into the Healing Library, I think it will be most helpful to all BS to read.
This is so relevant and comprehensive.
mchercheur, thank you for requesting that it be bumped.
Thanks you for writing this nomadlady
It really is just what I needed to read at the moment
So glad I logged on and saw this.
I needed this post today. Great information to keep my head on straight. Thank you!
This is amazing. I wish I'd read this years ago!
I needed to read this today... thanks!
I missed this the first time around. Thank you nomadlady! That was a very concise and well written post.
This is the BEST synopsis of life as a member of SI! This is brilliant, true, and incredibly validating. This NEEDS TO BE IN THE HEALING LIBRARY!!!!
I did read this last fall but without true comprehension.
Think/hope I've got it now. This all applies in spades when dealing with an SA spouse.
Thank you, Nomad.
NomadLady is a researcher, and THIS literature deserves publication somewhere, even if it's just a pin to the top of the Forum for a while.
Just wanted to bump this great thread.
This is so well thought out and composed. Great for all BS to read!!! Thanks for bumping!!