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4everfaithful83 posted 1/26/2014 17:09 PM

Great post! Thank you!!

Dobegirl posted 1/26/2014 18:10 PM

Omygosh exactly what I needed to read today. Going to bookmark this one for sure..thanks, thanks, thanks!

Harriet posted 1/26/2014 23:21 PM

Just wanted to add my enthusiatic praise. Really wonderful. Thank you.

NikkiD posted 1/27/2014 10:15 AM

This was so on point!! Thank you a million times over

Dawn58 posted 1/27/2014 10:32 AM

Right on! Excellent post that really lays it out.

I so relate to trying to figure out the "Why it happened". That has taken me so long to accept that and as you pointed out, comes from that part of me that wants to fix it and is having a hard time letting go. I finally have come to the conclusion that he is very wounded and does not realize it. He acts out of that place, there was nothing I could do. I was blindsided by his affair, everyone was shocked. He is very good at deception.

I choose to divorce my husband, my mediation is in April. Not an easy choice but the only one I could make. I filed a year ago and the road has definitely had it's ups and downs.

I am 14 months out and am starting to feel that my heart is healing. I found my laughter again, I have moments of great happiness and relish my freedom. I have tremendous gratitude that I am not with my STBX and I still have moments of great sadness that I am not with him. And the hurt still bubbles up but doesn't consume me like it did before. Life does move on.

I really hope your post can go into the Healing Library, I think it will be most helpful to all BS to read.

Pippy posted 3/10/2014 16:08 PM


mchercheur posted 4/25/2014 20:50 PM


lovedmesomehim posted 4/26/2014 00:57 AM

This is so relevant and comprehensive.

mchercheur, thank you for requesting that it be bumped.


littleflower posted 4/26/2014 02:52 AM

Thanks you for writing this nomadlady

It really is just what I needed to read at the moment

thecosmogirl posted 4/26/2014 09:58 AM

So glad I logged on and saw this.
Thank you!!

HeBrokeVows posted 4/27/2014 21:19 PM

I needed this post today. Great information to keep my head on straight. Thank you!

ShellyShell posted 4/27/2014 21:43 PM

This is amazing. I wish I'd read this years ago!

slicerboy posted 5/22/2014 11:02 AM

I needed to read this today... thanks!

need_hope posted 5/22/2014 11:25 AM

I missed this the first time around. Thank you nomadlady! That was a very concise and well written post.

Mom-of-4 posted 5/22/2014 11:38 AM

This is the BEST synopsis of life as a member of SI! This is brilliant, true, and incredibly validating. This NEEDS TO BE IN THE HEALING LIBRARY!!!!

Twentyplus posted 5/22/2014 12:33 PM

I did read this last fall but without true comprehension.

Think/hope I've got it now. This all applies in spades when dealing with an SA spouse.

Thank you, Nomad.

ButterflyGirl posted 5/22/2014 12:56 PM

Hey Mods!

NomadLady is a researcher, and THIS literature deserves publication somewhere, even if it's just a pin to the top of the Forum for a while.

Just awesome

FightingBack posted 7/6/2014 01:10 AM

Just wanted to bump this great thread.

neecee posted 7/6/2014 09:26 AM

This is so well thought out and composed. Great for all BS to read!!! Thanks for bumping!!

littleflower posted 8/18/2014 07:40 AM


ReconcilingWife posted 8/18/2014 07:58 AM

Thanks for bumping!

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