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User Topic: He was going to kidnap my kids
peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The OW sent me an email telling me that my XH had kidnapped her son and he was planning to do the same with my kids. Only I didn't fall for his shit and let him have my kids.

Apparently they really did break up and he's been living with some girl. That's why he didn't want me knowing where he lived.

I'm going to the police dept in the morning. Doubt they will do anything but at least it will be reported if he tries anything. Think it's time to move somewhere else so he doesn't know where I live.

His sister works at my son's school so on Monday I will be going to both kids schools so they know what is going on.

He really is one stupid motherfucker!


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh Dear God.

ETA: Is it possible for you & the kids to stay somewhere else this weekend? Anywhere? Hotel? Couch surf? Please don't be alone. If he's this psychotic, he could try to violently break into your home. I'm worried for you.

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 12:35 AM, November 23rd (Saturday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9827 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:49 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, I don't have any where else to go right now. We're getting winter storms right now. The OW got her son back. I know where he lives now. They aren't divorced so there wasn't much she could do. They don't even have a custody agreement. If he even tries to take my kids it's kidnapping.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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betrayedfriend
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Default  Posted: 4:40 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad she told you and that you have warning now. Good God please be careful! I'm worried about you and your littles. Has xsil been staying away from your ds?


I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.

Posts: 868 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Midwest USA
peridot
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Default  Posted: 6:00 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's been keeping her distance. I think she's afraid of loosing her job.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and strength being sent your way. I sure hope the cops take this seriously.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1866 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
twinkie
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ladies and gentlemen this is why is so extremely important that we get temp orders in place!!

I am glad everything worked out for all persons!!


Posts: 1064 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Louisiana
peridot
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I spoke to a cop. He said there isn't anything they can do until he tries something. Which I already figured, just wanted to get it on paper. I was already worried about him trying to do something like this so I have been proactive about making sure I have done everything I can to protect the kids.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
inconnu
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so glad your kids are safe, and have you for a mom, looking out for them.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


Posts: 12166 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ladies and gentlemen this is why is so extremely important that we get temp orders in place!!

Well, in some circumstances this is true. Not in mine. Temp orders would have given my STBX way more time with the children, possibly putting them in harm's way. Each divorce is different.

(((Peridot))) Hang in there and stay strong. I'm so glad you at least went to the police department. Did they file any paperwork at all???


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 1:55 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They took my statement and copied that email the OW sent me. Of course, the officer said they can't do anything until he breaks the law. I figured that already though.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FTG.

Hopefully he's on notice and won't try anything stupid.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((peridot & kids))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does he get visitation with your kids?

Did the OW press charges? He straight up took someone else's kids. How is he not in jail?

[This message edited by sparkysable at 9:01 AM, November 24th (Sunday)]


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3415 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
peridot
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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't have visitation with my kids. He didn't take my kids. He took his kid with the OW. They are married, no divorce has been filed and there isn't a custody order. That's how he got away with taking their kid. If he were to take my kids he would go to jail because I have sole custody.


Frankly, neither one of those idiots should be parents.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh OK, I thought it was the OW's kid, NOT his kid. I read that all wrong.

Good thing he doesn't get visitation. But I'd watch your back, and make sure the school or anywhere else that they might be are on high alert.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3415 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
peridot
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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His sister works at my son's school, so yeah, I'll be there Monday morning talking to the schools. Both schools already know I am the only person who is supposed to pick the kids up.

He threatened to take off with the kids to Mexico years ago so I have done everything I can to make sure that never happens.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Mousse242
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Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do the kids know to make a scene if he tries to take them?

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peridot
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, they do. When we have the stranger danger talk, I include their dad, his family and his friends. We've had extensive talks about this.

[This message edited by peridot at 7:49 PM, November 24th (Sunday)]


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4788 | Registered: Feb 2008
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((peridot)))

You sound like you have every thing under control. I hate that you have to be on high alert.

Hang in there.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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