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User Topic: 2014 what will it bring you?
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 5:21 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With only a month till Christmas, it has got me thinking about things I want to achieve next year. What is your wish list for 2014. Things to accomplish, maybe a few bucket list things ticked off or something you want to see happen. I feel like much of 2013 I have been simply treading water, so I want some new goals for the new year.

I'll start with a few:

1. A trip away with the kids to a new destination - not sure where yet though.
2. I would like to try something new, something like paddle boarding.
3. To work more on me for 2014, get back to the healthy me and lose some weight. Which if I'm happier and healthier will inturn help me a better mother to my kids.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1321 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
newnormal
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. A mission trip to central America. Too bad my XWX wants to make this his first. Good thing its a big group and God is faithful to give us strength.
2. 1st quarter 2014: finish cleaning up all the crap out of the house X left behind. That includes giving me a little more time to finish healing. Dday was 6 years ago but I want to prove to myself that I can be happy as a singleton.
3. Start dating. I've been married twice, but never really dated. Both times I got serious too fast. This time I want to meet some guy friends first.


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
seekingright2013
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great topic, I have been thinking about this very thing!

-- finish my masters plus 30 (another certification level and pay raise)
-- only 19 lbs to a 'normal' bmi
-- clean the garage
-- two places I want to visit this year: Taos and the Guggenheim in NYC.

I know what you mean about treading water. I'm finding I can finally start focusing on the present and future, and the past has less of a hold on me.


BSO, 53
exWSO, who cares
DD: 11/18/12
DD2: 11/21/12
Kicked him to the curb 11/21/12
I tramp a perpetual journey.
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Posts: 116 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Red State SE US
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this post! It is powerful to name your goals.

1. Complete my masters and build a career in my new
field.
2. Learn to kind and forgiving to myself.

3. Organize,organize,organize!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hit the big 6-0 this year. I think this is the year to make that trip to Hawaii


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Posts: 20030 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I turn 30 so I intend on making my 2014 full of changes.
I get officially divorced in 10 days so 2014, I will be single.
I graduate with a second bachelors in less than 3 weeks.
I intend on relocating from my current state and starting a career.
Since my ex husband and I have been separated for almost a year now, I feel ready to seriously date again and I look forward to it when I relocate.

[This message edited by movingforward13 at 7:23 AM, November 24th (Sunday)]


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 637 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. I'll have a new job in 2014. Don't know what yet but I have two options I'm looking at.

2. Really ramp up my running to get a run in every other day.

3. Lose 20 - 30 lbs and get back to my best weight I had before my surgery.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3406 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1. Working my ass off in school.
2. Start interning in my new career.
3. Learn to be a better dater. I seem to suck at it.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4113 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, possibly quite a bit!

I'm considering a job change, but it's early days yet.

I would like to take a small overnight trip with my kids.

I think I'm open to the possibility of dating, but like newnormal stated, I want to be relaxed and slow about it. Things got serious pretty quickly with XWH, and I'm not the least bit interested in repeating that mistake.

I want to get back into better self care-- maybe taking yoga and/or meditation classes again, going for more massages (my first is next week!), getting out and walking again.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3575 | Registered: Oct 2011
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmm,

1. Continue to get as much training and education as I can in order to prepare myself for advancement at my job.
2. More money coming in as I get my 6 month and 1 year review.
3. Still rebuilding my credit and it is going well so far.
4. Travel a bit with IrishLad. Closer to home destinations this year.
5. Continue to focus on me and my healing (I have finally reached indifference)
6. Continue to grow and be grateful for where I am on the journey to where I want to be
7. To start getting in shape and exercising. I miss it and I can't afford a gym membership. I am hoping I can buy a treadmill or something come tax return time.

[This message edited by IrishLass518 at 11:30 AM, November 24th (Sunday)]


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1727 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like this topic!

Hopefully 2014 will bring me -

1. A qualifying time for the Boston marathon.
2. There were two things I lost the desire to do after D-day: knit and brew beer. I just finished a hat for Teslet and am working on a scarf for him. Now, if I could start brewing again next year, I would really feel like I reclaimed something.
3. My folks are within 5 years of retiring and my dad made a very interesting proposal to me. It's a great idea but I'll need to get a couple of financial ducks in a row during 2014 to make it happen...and see how the housing market is doing in my area...and be willing to pull the trigger if/when the opportunity presents itself...I dunno, we'll see.
4. More camping with Teslet. We got two weekend campouts in last year. Hoping for 4 weekend campouts and one longer campout somewhere interesting this summer.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4610 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I play too:

1. Taking my house back when my roommate moves out and turning the den and the bedroom and bathroom she is renting into my sanctuary. And while I am at it, continuing to de-clutter and upgrading the rest of the house room by room.

2. Working my two additional contract jobs as much as possible to stash away the money for travel with DDs.

3. Going to Hawaii with DDs in February.

4. Starting my flight training.

5. Going to Europe with DDs for 4 weeks in June/July.

6. Losing a few pounds and getting back into shape.

7. NOT do date for all of 2014. 2014 is ME time only


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1247 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't finalized goals yet, but I do have some (of course, because I am type-A and listy!):

1. Marathons in at least 2 more states

2. Race at least 300 miles

3. Read at least 52 books

4. Go to at least 12 concerts

5. Go to at least 24 movies in the theater

6. Average yoga at least 3 times per week

7. Average at least 30 miles running per week

8. Bike to work more days in 2014 than 2013

9. Europe with my mom (she wants to meet my host families from when I was an exchange student nearly 20 years ago.)

10. Finish knitting the Chicago Bears scarf for my friend Kate

11. Brew a batch of mead

12. Paint my bedroom and get my fabulous closet lights installed

It's going to be a great year!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3317 | Registered: Dec 2011
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

11. Brew a batch of mead

phmh: I tried mead a few years ago (raspberry, yum!), but it's something like $200 for 6 cans... Please send me some. LOL


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think two goals are realistic for me at this time. If I add too many, I may not accomplish them all.

I will:

1- Start saving money. (Hopefully the lawyer will be all paid up by the new year and I can actually start doing this!)

2- Continue working to improve my organization.



Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, November 24th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

2013 was spent trying to keep our heads above water. Hubby was unemployed from August 2012 til a month ago. Our savings are completely wiped out and we have bills that are behind still.

So with that in mind, for 2014:
1. Rebuild savings with a larger buffer (8+ months rather than 3-4 months of income).
2. Pay off any remaining credit card debt.
3. Study for CPA exam.
4. Save for a romantic get away for hubby and me.
5. Lose the remaining (stubborn) 20lbs that I keep losing a portion of, then regaining.

ETA: That should have read August 2012, not August 2013.

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 12:00 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - R looks possible..

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

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Posts: 6367 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 3:28 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow I am in awe of you guys, so many wonderful goals


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1321 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well winter semester is my time for setting social life aside and going for it in the education dept.

Sooooo....

- Two evening history seminars:

One about homicide in Britain (juicy and I love the prof) and one about the fantasy world of Tolkein (yes this is a for-credit course!). Apparently the prof is a total wonk, so it should be intense but interesting).

- The next online course for HTML web stuff (the last of two prerequisites), it's only six weeks so I'll be done by mid February and will be able to focus on the history assignments after that until April. And with the pre-reqs completed I'll be able to cherry-pick dates and times for the rest of the certificate courses over the summer and fall.

- Sting + Paul Simon at the end of February!!!!

- Summer road trip to take one of my handmade guitars back to its maker for a serious makeover. He has not seen it in probably 20 years, and he lives up country on a beautiful piece of land, so it will take me to places I haven't seen in at least that long, last time with my mom in 1995.

- A week with my BFF who is coming from Doha to stay in July. She loves my new place so much she's decided to make it an annual visit.

- Learning some classical and Spanish pieces on my (hopefully-soon-to-be-in-my-hands!) new nylon string guitar. I'm ordering it from France and it's one of only six in the world of that kind. That's MY 60th birthday/Xmas present to myself.


[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:41 AM, November 25th (Monday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17340 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Since 2013 has sucked incredibly, I am really looking forward to starting a new year! A couple of things include:

1. Going to Turks and Caicos Islands with DD17 in March for my Independence Celebration trip (subsidized with proceeds with XPOS's crap left at my house that I sold, seemed appropriate). Promised DD earlier this year that I would take her on a trip somewhere when the dust settled because she has been through so much as well.
2. Try to get in better physical shape. Am thinking about trying to get back into martial arts (for the exercise aspect) that I did for years before it fell by the wayside because of XPOS.
3. Pick at least one major outside project for the house to get done. That is part of my long term plan to do one thing each year outside to increase property value for when I go to sell it in 4-5 years (inside has been done already).
4. Enjoy having DS20 back home when he exits the military in July. All my kids will be near me again!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

GREAT POST!!! Nice to be able to put positive thoughts out there..

1) Finish MBA. Should be done next November.

2) Divorce final by end Feb - Mid-March.

3) Hopefully close on the dream home I've found (made offer contingent upon not being able to close until divorce is final (ninety days-ish); waiting to see if they accept my offer or not)

4) Teach myself how to play the dulcimer and how to garden without killing plants :)

5) Spend more time with family and friends and Laugh more!


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


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