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User Topic: Cheater's Manual?
bobf
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had responses to some of the things I posted about my wife's behavior and her OEA partner answered by things like, "see pg 42 of the cheater's manual".

I assumed this is sarcasm, but is there really some form of cheater's manual that someone published elsewhere?

If there is, I wonder if I should go look at it to find out what other things my wife or OEA partner might of done...


Me: BH early 50s
Her: fWW late 40s (kmom2662)
7 Wk OEA, Skype, Cyber
DDay 10-4-13
Married 20+ years
Currently in R

Posts: 143 | Registered: Nov 2013
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! My fault bob - for sending you on a search...
We hear the same stuff over and over - thousands of times, so we jokingly refer to a manual...
The '42' was a reference to 'the answer to everything'...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/42_%28number%29

Posts: 6644 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have often referred to the "lists" given in a very prominent women's magazine and their website as a cheater manual for seduction by OW. I read one to my H the first time he "got it" concerning how he was duped into thinking it was the real thing. It was a sequential list on how to get a man into your bed. Sickening to see how he fell for every. single. line.

The cheater manual comments are sarcastic because most A follow a common script with maybe only 3 different scenarios. The commonness of it all makes it so ridiculous when it happens because all WS and AP think they are so special.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1526 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
Sleepy312
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Angry  Posted: 9:14 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

@lovedyoumore...where can I find this list?

again after 7 years H blamed me for the affair.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've seen books advertised telling people how to cheat. Not so strangely, I can't cite any. (Usually, in a thread like this, I'd attempt to track down references, but I'm not gonna do that here.)

You don't need a book, though - just listen to what your WS says. It's all been said before. For examples, just turn on your TV....


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10354 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sleepy, look for pm


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1526 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
bufffalo
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, November 25th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favorite "from the cheaters manual".....ILYBINILWY...

I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You

yeah...heard that shit....

Standard line too....

Bufffalo


DDay 9/25/2008
R started 11/10/08
BH-me

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