It's the take, take, take mentality. I am in exactly the same position. A little graciousness from my ex would go a long way but he doesn't have the class for that.
It's weird how mine turned into a weird greedy dude over stupid stuff just to keep me from having it. I finally realized he did it to annoy and hurt me, he didn't care or need the stuff. So I quit letting him have the satisfaction. He can keep the crap. It's just stuff, tainted with his energy.
I'd keep the tv if I needed it and fight for reimbursement for half the value of the other stuff he took.
Letting go of the smaller battles has helped me start to move forward.
My lawyer was like "spend the $30, buy a new shovel, and give him this shovel", but at the time, I had no other snow shovel, and didn't have the money to splurge on having to buy myself a snow shovel, after everything else he had taken from me. I live in Buffalo, NY. I need a shovel.
So, she put in the final agreement, among the list of items that I HAD to give him from the house, she just put "shovel". I gave him a shovel all right, a garden shovel. Not the shovel he wanted.
I proudly use that shovel every winter.
I felt like he had taken every thing else from me, then he wanted the shovel too? How the hell was I supposed to shovel? He wanted the shovel to shovel the OW's driveway, where he had moved in. I wasn't having it.
The thing that worked out well for me, was that he was so focued on the stuff from the house, that he let things like custody and visitation slide. This fight for the shovel and other tools took the attention away from the fact that he gets no overnights, and the only holidays he gets is Christmas Eve until bedtime, and Father's Day.
He thought he won, when in actuality, I won.
I would not let him bully you, but if the papers say that you HAVE to give him the TV, I guess you have to do it. But I wouldn't hand it over so easily, and I wouldn't be against tampering with it either.
[This message edited by sparkysable at 9:09 AM, November 26th (Tuesday)]
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
I'm taking some small pleasure in knowing that every letter I personally write to my CSTBXWW's lawyer is costing her money as the lawyer has an obligation to read, file, forward, post and comment to every letter. Little wins can be satisfying
Do you care what kind of TV you have? I think poeple are giving away old tube-style TVs for free on Craigslist, Freecycle, etc.
I live in Buffalo, NY. I need a shovel.
My plan if he didn't was to dismantle parts of it so it wouldn't work.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
He would enjoy the conflict caused by fighting over the TV way more than he'll enjoy a non-working TV.