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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

...you got it, Karma. One of the "reasons" xWH listed as him having an A was that he needed a lot of attention. I was talking with MIL last night (we are still close and she and xWH don't speak any longer} and she told me this little gem of a story. My BIL (again still close with him and he and xWH don't speak either) works in the auto industry. There is a little hottie who comes to his place of business to deliver supplies. The two of them get to talking one day and he mentions that he used to work in the quick lube industry. He mentions his brother still does and is managing a shop in the area. Hottie asks which one as she delivers to several of them. BIL tells her and she asks xWH's name. BIL tells her and Hottie says "That's your brother, you're kidding? You are so nice and he's such a d&*k and his wife is fu$%ing crazy" Apparently, Hottie delivers to xWH's shop or used to. Hottie was confronted by OWiftress one day and told that her husband didn't appreciate the way she dressed and flaunted herself and she should make herself scarce. I laughed at this point cause he's a guy, he appreciates the Hell out of the little hottie. The next time Hottie went there she didn't see OWifetress and was talking to xWH about supplies and OWifetress came from around the side of the building to make her presence known. After this incident Hottie decides to call ahead to check if supplies are needed and a flustered xWH tells her that she probably shouldn't come by and deliver supplies anymore. Yes folks, OWifetress sits at his shop all day and babysits her husband. Is that enough attention for you?


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1748 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Priceless!!!!!


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2788 | Registered: Jan 2011
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awe, what a wonderfully happy union he has now!!

And by happy I mean controllingbatshitcrazy of course!!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3579 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THAT is a beautiful story ... he got exactly what he wanted and deserved.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2180 | Registered: Oct 2012
Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! It's almost like OWifetress doesn't trust this cheater she's married to. It sounds like they both got what they deserved!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1886 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol. Love it. !!!!


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 644 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
lost4now
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Default  Posted: 10:30 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a true LOVE story!!!!


BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

Posts: 841 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: NJ
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What? You mean you can't trust a cheater????

bwwaaaahahahahahahahaaaa


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2583 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is that enough attention for you?

::::::breath:::::::

Precious. Truly outstanding!


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


Posts: 3080 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Their love is real


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3337 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I gotta say that during the false R, xWH told me that I always watched over him, I was controlling, jealous and manipulative. I guess I didn't do such a good job of all of that cause he still was having the A. Ha ha, now he really has all that he accused me of in OWifetress. Gotta love it.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1748 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
peridot
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karma seems to be going around right now.

Guess karma decided to give us all something to be thankful for this week.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4771 | Registered: Feb 2008
SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is that enough attention for you?

I wonder if they still think they win at life... sounds like hell to me.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5547 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reap what ye sow!
Yep, gotta love it!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2230 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hmmmm, wonder where she got the idea that xwh can't be trusted???


gotta love it!!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1281 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I gotta say that during the false R, xWH told me that I always watched over him, I was controlling, jealous and manipulative. I guess I didn't do such a good job of all of that cause he still was having the A. Ha ha, now he really has all that he accused me of in OWifetress. Gotta love it.[/ quote]

Hey, it isn't many of us who can say we got exactly what we wanted. I'm so very happy for him that he has so much attention.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2328 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On a side note: THIS situation was exactly the future I did not want for myself. I saw he wasn't doing the work, he wasn't remorseful and he wasn't making any actions towards change. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life babysitting a grown man child. I actually kinda feel (sad, pity, I am not sure what) for them both. This is no way to live or have a healthy relationship. MIL is surprised he hasn't been fired yet due to OWiftress' presence there EVERYDAY and folks I am not exaggerating for effect. She literally is there all day, everyday watching him work. He can't have any authority over his crew, they see he can't even exert any authority with his wife and people are laughing about it.

I swear, if you all had known him before, when he was so loved and admired and respected, you wouldn't believe the man he is now. I can't imagine this is the happy life either of hem are constantly shouting about


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1748 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome.

I also didn't want to be the marriage police. I knew that's what I would be doing for the rest of our marriage, and the thought of that made me feel ill.

Gosh, I hope he's enjoying all of the tons of attention he so rightfully deserves, and I hope that she's loving her role as prison guard!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3595 | Registered: Oct 2011
PurpleBirch
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lol this:

Wow! It's almost like OWifetress doesn't trust this cheater she's married to.

And this:


Their love is real


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
notmychoice
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is classic. I totally trusted my stbx and never checked his phone or anything else for that matter. When he was with the OW she was so paranoid that we were getting back together she would check all his messages and he would have to delete anything we talked about unless it was about the kids. I knew this so I sent a message one time that to talk about our meeting and sure enough she read it. Well, they had a huge fight and she ended up leaving his place all upset. I asked him how it felt that he was 50 years old and had to live like that. He had all the freedom and trust for over 20 years and now look at him. It is pathetic.

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