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User Topic: His illegitimate child was born
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ooops, double posted...danged computers!

[This message edited by StillLivin at 1:10 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)]


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

Posts: 1766 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
ArkLaMiss
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Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SL, please stop talking to him! He's a mindfuck and will twist and use all that you say against you.
Honey, he ain't worth the salt in your tears! Don't give him anymore head space. He's not worthy of ANY part of you!
Hugs.


Just HOW stupid do you think I am, exactly?

Posts: 1119 | Registered: Jun 2007
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SL, please stop talking to him! He's a mindfuck and will twist and use all that you say against you.
Honey, he ain't worth the salt in your tears! Don't give him anymore head space. He's not worthy of ANY part of you!
Hugs.

ArkLaMiss
Promise, I'm good. Those two emails were for my sake, not his. I'm glad he half kinda sorta well not, maybe??? gets it.
But, yes, from now on it's just about business.
I really do forgive him now. His crap yesterday, insane and sick, opened my eyes to how pitiful he really is and I just can't hate pathetic anymore.
And (((hugs))) back at you, sweetie! We will all get through this insanity and come out better and stronger!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

Posts: 1766 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am glad the emails were for you. He doesn't get it, I'm so sorry. He doesn't even remotely get it. There were no true apologies, and he still tried to act patronizing to you by saying it was the "nicest email he'd gotten from you in a while". Right now, he's trying to convince himself he's "not so bad", most likely. No personal responsibility whatsoever.

Seek out the peace you need from the situation; it might have ups and downs, but keep your eyes on your journey. Nevermind his.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.

Posts: 3761 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

silverhopes
HTG I just feel sorry for him. I'm 10X more whole than him and I was the abused one. I did a lot of work on myself in my early 20s.
I just can't hate him anymore. I finally see how pathetic and broken he is. He has a really good side, but he is so damaged, he will never be happy with himself. That little bit of good in him will always be overshadowed by the broken in him. He will continue to repeat his actions and then blame others.
A friend told me something that almost made me cry. She said, "Sergeant StillLivin, you've always carried yourself like you knew what you were doing, like you genuinely liked yourself and like you have pride in who you are! I've always admired you and wished I was always such a happy proud person."
It touched me to no end. It is so true. I genuinely like who I am and I do not do things (since my early 20s) that I would ever be ashamed for my family or DSSs to find out about. I conduct myself with honor and integrity.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB

Posts: 1766 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
Skan
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay strong, darling. When you see the light, always, always choose to walk towards it. Let the shadows fall behind you, not in front of you. Walk in love and honor, my sister. Walk in beauty and light. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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tara1110
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((StillLivin)))


Me BS:34
H WS: 28
OW: 33 (butter face... Thanks to sistermilkshake for the nickname)
Dday: July 24, 2013 (5 days after our 5th wedding anniversary)
7yrs together, married for 5 yrs
Status: divorcing

Posts: 84 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: North Carolina
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