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User Topic: Proper ask or not to ask xmas bonus?
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy for you!

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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I was wondering.

The company that I work for is privately held. We have a "profit sharing" that is given to all employees in the form of XX hours, usually paid in July and December.

They also have a bonus for a select few employees. It is at the discretion of managment, and NEVER guaranteed. Asking about it would be seriously frowned upon.

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Default  Posted: 11:46 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so pleased you got your bonus Shelly!!! I'm sure it feels good - no matter what you decide to do with it.

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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I won't respond on these types of threads anymore.

Phmh- I thought it was good advice, well it was for me, personally. I usually work extra hours in the summer (it's like getting a bonus) and the idea of putting most (or even all of it) to my E-Fund made me start to think financially long term.
I've been slammed with debt since D & I've just been focused on immediate bills, but now things has settled and now I can start to work towards my savings.

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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am happy for you Shelly. That is great news.

My company has a unique thing around this time of the year. When we have open enrollment for benefits, we can purchase a week of vacation for $99. At the end of the year, if we did not use it then we can sell it back at our normal hourly rate. It really is a great rate of return and for those of us with kids acts as a great Christmas Club. I can never remember if we get that check in the beginning of December or the middle. Either way it helps a bunch.

phmh, your comments and advice are wonderful. Please keep posting even if we don't always agree.

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Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats on receiving your bonus! Those who receive unwritten bonuses from their employers are fortunate. There are many working folks, like myself, who do not receive this benefit. There are companies that take care of their employees and I commend them! I'm glad that you work for one.

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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy you got the bonus! Enjoy it!!

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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are companies that take care of their employees and I commend them! I'm glad that you work for one.

I do...I am SO very fortunate. We have excellent benefits... and we have a full all out Christmas party to boot in December with open bar and all! They go all out for us! The owner even gives us gift certificates on top of bonuses! We even have a monthly company paid catered breakfast every 1st Wednesday! Our employer takes care of us! He orders pizzas or subs on snow days and does all sorts of thoughtful things throughout the year! I'm very lucky. I love my job and am thankful for it every day.... if the day comes and they can't do won't affect my feelings towards how lucky I am!

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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would like to voice my 10000000./. support for what phmh said. I grew up poor too. My dad was too sick too work, my mother was not educated enough to make much money in her part time job. I remember vividly being mocked by my brand-name wearing classmates for just having one pair of pants. I remember my mother going hungry because she wanted to make sure my dad and I had enough. I remember Christmas with one small gift and that was it. But I had my family, in sickness and in health. Who gives a shit about stuff???? How does it help you be a better person or be less stressed tomorrow?

I have worked three jobs while raising two kids to dig myself out of debt. I took in a renter. And yes, now I can earn the fruit of that because I did not resign myself to the pathetic and self-defeating mindset that "I will be in debt all my life" and that living paycheck to paycheck is just a given and that stuff makes you happy. Who give a flying f..$@ about stuff? That is NOT what Christmas is not what about.

Good for you there was a Christmas bonus, be wise with what you were given. Your daughter has your love and family. All else is meaningless.

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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This was a very nice holiday thread all around - -
a modern day Charles Dickens "A Christmas Carol"
only without the ghosts.

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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad you got your bonus Shelly!

I need not suffer in silence while I can still moan, whimper and complain.

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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, December 11th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just checked back to see if Shelly got her bonus. Yeahhh!

PLMH I think that second post was for me. I have had union tended expenses this year and have struggled. Your post reminds me to do what I should have been doing, so thank you

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