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User Topic: I have 7 days...could he b telling truth
confused52204
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg I have made a mess from this situation. I've become mean bitter and worst of all I told a couple of friends. This situation has now spiraled downward. He's leaving in a few days. He hates me and says he never wants to c me again. He went in CL for 2 years abc since I can't c past it I've become mean and selfish. I feel like everyone should feel sorry for me and I'm ok w telling anyone who will listen . I'm pathetic!

Posts: 526 | Registered: Nov 2007
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 9:18 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are not pathetic. You are in pain and it is understandable to at times lash out.

Now is the time to take control of your life. He wants out tell him "see ya, don't let the door hit your ass on the way out".

You can only control yourself, you cant make him do more or be more. You can however choose to not let this terrible thing define your life and your happiness. It takes time and hard work but life will be good and full of joy again.

(((confused52204)))


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Posts: 716 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best advice I ever received from my therapist - "Remember to be kind to yourself." You've been through a traumatic event, of course you're going to react. So cut yourself a little slack.

[This message edited by persevere at 9:48 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)]


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

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It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
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Posts: 4160 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, November 26th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sure sounds as if someone is giving you some brain damage and making you doubt yourself.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

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momentintime
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Default  Posted: 12:46 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He doesn't want people to know what a lowlife he is, so he trashes you because of his actions. Don't listen to his drivel.


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Posts: 2824 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: New York
confused52204
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thing is this is my choice I want out. He wants to stay.

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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

of course he wants to stay put! Who wouldn't want to stay where there is someone doing everything s/he can to make you happy? How much does he worry about you and making you feel safe and happy?


Me: BS 46
Him: LCB--lying, cheating bastard 50
D-Day 4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 299 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are not pathetic and you have not made a mess of ANYTHING.

You were handed a big plate of shit, and now you're bitter and mean because you refuse to accept the shit with a smile on your face?

Nope. No way. No how.

Strength to you, honey. ((((confused52204))))


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There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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