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User Topic: I'm freaking out!
traicionada
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DOH!  Posted: 10:31 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The night terrors stopped 2 1/2 years after day and with them the dreams also went away. After 2 years of therapy, I made peace with it. I resigned myself to leave in a world without dreams. Until 2 days ago, the dreams are back and with them the XH. Needless to say, I'm freaking out. I haven't been to IC in over a year because my therapist swore I was fine. Guess what? Today, I don't feel fine. Today, I feel scared, sad & just flat out pathetic I vanquished him from my mind long ago; he doesn't get to come back. Ugh! Now, I feel stupid for crying


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

Posts: 3243 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honey - you are not stupid! Of course you're crying. You thought you had cleaned house thoroughly only to find more stuff to clean. You're entitled to those feelings, traic.

You know the drill. Self care today. Maybe consider a revisit to IC?

(((((huge hugs)))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 11:57 AM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Setbacks come here, too. We're entitled, Traic. Don't beat yourself up but get back up when you can and think of all the progress you've made.

Sometimes the pain makes it hard to see how hard we've come, but it's there, nonetheless.

One thing that helped me, FWIW, is to tell myself repeatedly about "today".

"Today", I am ok. "Today", Perv is not important.

"Today", I did all these things and I made a list of all the stuff I did on my own. I look back at it at night when I'm down and it helps every time.

Making "today" a present tense time helps reel our brains back into the now. This was a tool that an IC gave me and it helped during some pretty dark days.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess


Posts: 2134 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

With these kinds of situations, it just means you are getting stronger and ready to deal with the serious hurt. You've dealt with a lot, maybe there were some unresolved issues your subconscious didn't want to give your conscious just yet.
Plus, it's the holidays. Of course that is gonna trigger some things too!
Tomorrow is a whole new day.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
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