I TOLD YOU LAST WEEK (just 5 days ago) THAT WE WERE BUSY BUSY BUSY FOR THE MONTH OF DECEMBER.
Unbelievable. He just does not listen. I told him that LAST WEEKEND was the last free time they had until XMAS. Holy shit what an asshole.
He hemmed and hawed and tried to wheedle out a time. They have birthday parties, XMAS parties, a karate grad, piano recital, hockey games, a play that I bought tickets for, it's also my birthday the day before he leaves so my "party" is scheduled for the sunday before etc. etc.
I TOLD HIM. He doesn't listen.
He also wanted to take them to Frozen tonight and I told him I wanted to see it too but we couldn't go tonight because we have a dental appointment.
It's not like he wasn't warned. He just doesn't choose to hear what I say.
It infuriates me. I told him also that it was not so long ago that he was part of all these plans and he should remember how busy the month of December gets with their schedule.
Holy fucking shit what an entitled idiot.
He said that they won't ski until next year then and I said, "well who's fault is that?" He said, "I guess mine."
Dumb ass fucktard asshole. How is this my fault? How do you blame me for this as well?
Don't want to deal with this anymore.
I'm just so angry that I actually told him we were busy and he just disregarded that information. He only told me 5 days ago that he was leaving on the 18th. Does he think I filled their schedule in that time so that he doesn't get to see them before he goes? That stuff has been scheduled since shortly after Halloween.
[This message edited by Lola2kids at 11:49 AM, November 27th (Wednesday)]
I get it here with DD and some friends get it also. Yes, it is the entitlement and we think an attempt to still have some type of control on the given up family. Yet when I or friends used to ask for extra time, it was no. That's why we think it's control.
They hear. Each and every word.
Perv tries constantly to rearrange what I say and sometimes I have to work harder to not cancel something like a dentist. I think its a type of bullying, like trying to see how high that I will jump to still please him. I don't anymore and if it makes him angry, I don't answer. It sounds kind of similar.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
Any way that you can have all communication go through e-mail?
And good for you for recognizing he's just doing this for control and for standing your ground. Let's hope he actually starts listening, but I'm not holding my breath.
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You've got this Lola. I know you do.
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There are times I am amazed he can talk without drooling on himself. I don't know if it is because they don't listen or just don't care because it doesn't pertain directly to them.
He phones the kids approximately once a week. They get maybe 5 minutes between the 2 of them.
He comes over to the house occasionally for about an hour. This happens maybe twice a month.
Right now, I suspect he is working extra time to take in lieu since he has little vacation left.
He has taken them on 5 overnights for 2013. His parents are always present during the visitation overnights.
Phmh: He usually texts. He rarely tries to call me specifically because he knows I just let it go to voicemail, but has asked the girls to pass the phone to me the last 2 or 3 phone calls.
He very rarely emails me. I guess he doesn't want a paper trail. I have all of his texts saved and I am going to export them as soon as I have time during the holidays.
Also, from another thread of mine...The big news is that he actually bought them the iPads they want for Christmas. I think he is feeling really guilty. Or he just likes to look like Disney dad.
Originally he was grumbling that he didn't want them to become couch potatoes and they would have to give him assurances that they would do outside activities in exchange for the iPads. Believe me, these kids are not couch potatoes and if he ever really had helped out with their activities he would know that. It's like a slap in my face once again.
I can't wait until Dec. 18th.
Have fun with your new family fucktard.
just don't care because it doesn't pertain directly to them.
I think it's this^^^^