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User Topic: My Fellow D/Sep People...Let's Make the Most of this Holiday
NewMom0220
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To all my fellow SI Divorce/Seperation buddies,

I wish you the best Thanksgiving possible. I know a lot of you are hurting, tired, fed up, sad, triggering, or having to split time with your kids or spend the holiday doing things differently than you normally do.

I say, let's make the most of it. Let's be around people who lift us up. If you have to have a pity party, set aside a few minutes and do it, but focus on the many blessings you currently have and the ones that are coming your way. If you have to be around annoying family that say the wrong things or are so opinionated they have to give you their well meaning advice...roll your eyes and think of all of us who are doing the same.

If you have to split time with your kids...or won't be with your kids this holiday...take a deep breath...it's just a part of our new normal.

If you are thinking of what your in-laws and your STBX are doing or saying tomorrow or what the gathering is like without you there this year...envision them with a burnt turkey and runny mash potatoes.

Let's make the most of it. Wishing ALL of you magnificent people a wonderful holiday. I read your posts and think how did all of these intelligent, wonderful, and caring people end up here. Then I think, wow, that's a ton of newly single people back in the dating pool...so look forward to a bright future with more good people and new beginnings in the horizon.

ETA: I count all of the posters who share their stories and/or comment on my posts as one of my many blessings. I've learned more on this site than I have from any IC, MC, Attorney, or well meaning advice giving family member or friend. Thanks a bunch for your support.

Lots of Love to you,

Newmom0220

[This message edited by NewMom0220 at 3:52 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)]


Me: BS 36
Him: WS 37
14 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

Posts: 371 | Registered: Apr 2013
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hear, hear!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25290 | Registered: Aug 2011
StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Woot woot!
And lots of love back at you NewMom0220! You've helped me and so have the others. Time for me to pay it forward!


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2232 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
welcome14
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen! And may God bless us, every one! Oh, shoot, I may have been a bit early for that one, eh? Just repeat it to yourselves after the turkey....and then giggle and make everyone wonder..


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for this!


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes. Great post thank you


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 646 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, November 27th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I lift a glass to you all and count SI and the awesome members amongst the greatest of my blessings this year.


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D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 634 | Registered: May 2013
Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excellent idea. Here's what I'm thankful for this year.

1. Spending Thanksgiving with my side of the family for the first time in a long time.
2. Christmas cookies that DON'T have anise in them (it's a northern Italian thing).
3. I am not unknowingly living a lie with a WH that's giving me STDs.
4. When the kids come home from their grandparents' house, I'M the one they call home.
5. Knowing that I have done nothing to be ashamed of. I have learned from all the supporters on SI that his cheating had NOTHING to do with me. I was not too depressed, too fat, too tired, or too busy. He was just too stupid.
6. And last, but not least: STBXH left the cat in his apartment for four days with no one to clean the litter box, and I KNOW for a fact that after three days accumulation, kitty will start pooping on the bed. Bwahaha!


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


Posts: 1748 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

One of many things I am grateful for this year- all the support from this site. :)

Happy Thanksgiving!


divorced the Dooosh
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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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jackie89
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Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

great post! needed to hear that!

5. Knowing that I have done nothing to be ashamed of. I have learned from all the supporters on SI that his cheating had NOTHING to do with me. I was not too depressed, too fat, too tired, or too busy. He was just too stupid.
6. And last, but not least: STBXH left the cat in his apartment for four days with no one to clean the litter box, and I KNOW for a fact that after three days accumulation, kitty will start pooping on the bed. Bwahaha!


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


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