You are amazing. I think, that this is just what the Dr ordered for Mr. "I'm keeping my girlfriend". Amazing what a little reality does, Right?
Let him have Thanksgiving without his family. Give him a time to call the kids, perhaps 5 minutes, right before dinner, them they have to go. Do not talk to him yourself.
You have every right to make any decision you want. Weather that is to take him back, to send him on his way. But, guess what, IT IS GOING TO BE YOUR DECISION! NOT HIS, Not anyones. AND, It's going to be on YOUR terms only. That is your right.
Based on what he does next, you will know I think if he's worthy of raising your family and being your husband. PERIOD.
Where he goes, stays, eats, washes, is not your concern at the moment. REALITY.
Have a very wonderful Thanksgiving with the kids. In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!