Me: BH, 46
Her: WW, 43
I know you are feeling devastated and betrayed right now and those feelings are completely normal. I think it is especially difficult this time of year when every where you look families are "celebrating" the holiday together when all you may be feeling is the betrayal. Try to get adequate sleep, eat healthy foods (even something like a milk shake) and keep posting and writing and reading here.
The boards can be a little slow during the holidays, but sooner or later someone will be here to help and respond to your posts.
Be gentle with yourself...you will survive this, I promise. (((hugs)))
Listen. Be very kind to yourself over this frantic weekend. Remember this, you do not have to decide one darned thing right now. Nothing. Nada. You don't have to commit to anything right now. You can do what you need to do, which is to take care of yourself and yourself alone. Eat what you can. Stay hydrated, and not with booze. Rest when you're able. You are in shock right now, body and soul. Just as if a huge truck ran over you. Your emotions are going to be all over the place, up and down, and sideways and backwards. In seconds. You are going to feel love, hate, disbelief, denial, horror, you name it. And you're going to feel as if you're going crazy. This Is Normal. Absolutely Normal. You are reacting appropriately. This is what shock and infidelity does to you. Each of us has been through it.
If at all possible, I strongly suggest that you get "sick" and stay home. It's going to be very, very hard to keep it together for a Thanksgiving day, especially when people start nattering about all of the things they are thankful for. I'd spend the time going through your WHs (wayward husband's) electronic devices and getting all of his passwords to everything. You, unfortunately, probably have not gotten to the bottom of this hell hole. It's rare for Waywards to be completely truthful all at once. The normal progression is for them to string you along. I'm so sorry.
(((hugs))) It's likely to be slow around here, but rest assured, we all ARE here to support you. Please come back for support or to vent whenever you need to.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
My husband has had multiple inappropriate interactions thanks to FB. More than I'll ever know -- and each secret hurts. At least one of his affairs began with FB. One of the three I know about, anyway.
I'm so sorry.
Don't be lax here, my friend. Stay tuned in to his activity and remain vigilant.
I caught my husband inappropriately exchanging messages with an old girlfriend in 2010. We cried, made up, went to a pastoral care session, blah, blah, blah........three years later, his actions were worse.
So. much. worse.
Allow him to make this up to you. Allow him to do whatever he must do -- but do not rush to trust his behavior in any type of social media. FB was the primary culprit for my husband, but he is active on Twitter as well. He even went so far as to create a freaking PINTEREST account just to follow and keep tabs on one of his homewreckers. Pinterest? Really?
F*** this shit still pisses me off.
It's been 19 weeks (137 days, to be exact) since I learned the tip of the iceburg.
Still raw, I guess.
[This message edited by kickboxer at 12:05 AM, November 28th (Thursday)]