I just love the name of this post- had to respond!
I am sorry for everyone that is feeling crappy, I know, the holidays are so hard. Especially if this is the first one, as it is for me. I got through my birthday, my kids birthdays, halloween and now Thanksgiving. I used the Dorie from Nemo philosophy of "just keep swimming, just keep swimming."
My SIL's from his side of the family sent us a box of brownies and said, "I hope you enjoy Thanksgiving, sending lots of love." No one called though, because that would be AKWARD for them and they would have to be UNCOMFORTABLE so why call to see how we are doing? Well, F**K you, we don't need you either!!
I actually got it through it just fine! We went to a friends house. It was fine, it was fun, it was different than how we usually do it, but I acted like it was no big deal and so did the kids. I tried to be in the moment and refused to let that F**Ker ruin yet another one of my days.
Now, the kids have to spend the weekend with their Dad, from this am to Sunday pm, longest stretch yet. They DO NOT WANT TO GO. They are complaining about it. I am going shopping today, HH tonight, and then to a luxury dude ranch for the weekend. Actually kind of excited to have the break!
Don't let these selfish mo-fo's ruin your/our holidays. It is just another way they are winning if you let them. It sucks but we need to redefine, redirect and just have hope they are having a shitty, guilt riden, sad sad time themselves.