Well now he's free to run his life exactly how he likes which is why he woke up in a cheap hotel this morning.
It just dawned on me how long I was protecting the sad clown from himself. Sometimes consciously, mostly subconsciously.
Its amazing what happens when you pour that energy into yourself.
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare
SBB, I was in the same situation, running round with the safety net, clearing up after him, smoothing over situations, and a lot of heading off trouble. Worse because we ran our own business, I had to deal every work-related problem. It was a horrible way to live. I always felt on edge every time the mail came, wondering what would be in it. Plus, it dragged me down because of his poor credit.
I held it all together and he resented me for it.
And ALL the duckies in the house say YEAH! OH!
I'm really, really happy for you!
[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 6:23 PM, November 28th (Thursday)]
So, I told my children that our home, our property boundaries were our "safe" haven. We are at peace here, and no one is going to bother us, that the drama will never happen again. So the next time xwh came over acting wierd, I called the police. Ever since the D was final, he has to wait in the car for the kids to come out. Period. There is no "getting along" with this type person at first.
After 1 year, he has decided to bring the POS OW with him on pickup. So,I've been to the sheriff's office to get the Order of No Tresspass served to her. THIS IS MY HOME, my safe haven and she can sit her ass in the road if she wants to come with XWS.
Happy for you, btw!!!