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User Topic: Giving Thanks That I Got Divorced Today !!!
SBB
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can still remember how that first freedom smelled/felt/tasted. It was/is glorious. Not to say I don't still get sad - but it feels like a healthy sad, not a suffocating sad.

Well now he's free to run his life exactly how he likes which is why he woke up in a cheap hotel this morning.

And all is right with the world....

It just dawned on me how long I was protecting the sad clown from himself. Sometimes consciously, mostly subconsciously.

Its amazing what happens when you pour that energy into yourself.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

Posts: 5535 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! Breathe the clean air of freedom! You will feel even better when locks and garage door opener are changed. That little step made a big difference for me.


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
careerlady
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations! Lobed the story about his houses, his dumping of house 1 for house 2 sounds like a metaphor for the poor decision making that necessitated him moving out of the family home in the first place! I can't wait to be rid of my man toddler...


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 937 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

careerlady, it is a mix of ego, impulsivity and want, want, want. I suggested that he worked on House 1, sold it, took the profit and bought a house he really wanted. But that was ignored! So nice to be able to let go and let him fuck it up.

SBB, I was in the same situation, running round with the safety net, clearing up after him, smoothing over situations, and a lot of heading off trouble. Worse because we ran our own business, I had to deal every work-related problem. It was a horrible way to live. I always felt on edge every time the mail came, wondering what would be in it. Plus, it dragged me down because of his poor credit.

I held it all together and he resented me for it.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's me doing a happy dance for you!

And ALL the duckies in the house say YEAH! OH!

I'm really, really happy for you!

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 6:23 PM, November 28th (Thursday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9533 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NG, you get it


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This isn't exactly Mr. Fox, but I trust the mental image will satisfy:


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9533 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That Is Freaking Awesome!!!!'


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want to tell you to keep your guard up for a little while. When WH moved out, he went back and forth, freaked out some, etc. A couple of times he came here yelling and telling me all kinds of crap.

So, I told my children that our home, our property boundaries were our "safe" haven. We are at peace here, and no one is going to bother us, that the drama will never happen again. So the next time xwh came over acting wierd, I called the police. Ever since the D was final, he has to wait in the car for the kids to come out. Period. There is no "getting along" with this type person at first.

After 1 year, he has decided to bring the POS OW with him on pickup. So,I've been to the sheriff's office to get the Order of No Tresspass served to her. THIS IS MY HOME, my safe haven and she can sit her ass in the road if she wants to come with XWS.

Happy for you, btw!!!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

Posts: 2065 | Registered: Jan 2012
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats Jemima!! Enjoy the freedom and remember the crazy is no longer yours to even remotely think about. Oh yeah change your locks asap and enjoy your new life.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

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