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User Topic: DDay till Divorce - How long did it take for you?
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Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just shy of seven months, including the six month mandatory separation before filing, and three weeks between filing and our hearing. We waived appeal and it was final immediately or it would have been another month.

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Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Almost 4 years.

Fucknuts wanted to keep the A going, but not give up M. It took 18 months of me riding his ass to push the D thru.

Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 767 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just over 2 months.

Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10


Posts: 2232 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
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Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dday blindsided me on 1/10/11 - D was final on 4/27/2011 and I'm so glad we did it quickly even though he was an ass throughout the entire process.

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

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Posts: 4614 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

22 months

17 months to trial date and 22 months until verdict. Evidently we had a slow judge without a clerk, but really.

Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 12
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

D-day #1 was in Sept 2008. I did the false R dance for 9 months until June 2009, when I found the secret cell phone and confirmed that the affair had been taken underground. Now-ex walked out on me and the kids in August 2009, to be with OW, and I filed for divorce a few weeks later. The divorce wasn't final until April 2010, though.

So from d-day to divorce being final it was 19 1/2 months.

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Posts: 12167 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, November 28th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

21 months. 11months from filing. Had false R before that and actually continued to try and R after filing (complicated story. We were in in-house seperation from dday but still going to MC & IC etc). Finally gave up completely 5 months before divorce was final. In-house seperation ended 6 weeks before divorce was final. (A glorious glorious day.)

Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

11 months.

D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do you ask?

If you're trying to get an idea what the average is, you can see it goes from very speedy to exceptionally long.

If you're looking for the worst case scenario, continue on...

Mine was not the longest on SI, but I suppose it's in the top 10. 3 months from D-day#1 to filing, 52 months (yes, over 4 years) from filing to final judgment, and I'm taking the property settlement to the court of appeals, so add another year or so for that.

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Posts: 5181 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

5 months and 21 days from confrontation for latest whore. Would have been faster but the fucktwit was stalling to sign separation agreement for dissolution until I threatened to file for divorce with adultery listed as the reason...

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

13 Months total.

2 months (give or take) to decide that A was a deal breaker, another 4 months to file (I was waiting for him to be employed), and 7 months to final divorce. He was motivated to agree to things because he wanted to be done before year end for tax purposes.

Me - BW - 42
Him - XWH - 42
Married 10 years, together 18
D Day 11/1/11
3 kids - DS7, DS5, DD5
DIVORCED! December 2012

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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hired an attorney in may and just now got the "draft" of my legal separation. It will depend on whether or not WH signs it or if we have to battle it out. I think he'll sign it because he is remorseful.

My lawyer says, if he signs right away, it should move quickly through the courts but, if he balks, no telling.

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