Hon, he's cake eating, in my opinion. HE will make a decision after thanksgiving?? No. When you sit down on Sunday, YOU tell him that enough is enough. You've had enough.
Although you may want to R, he has to know you aren't going to play second fiddle to another woman, and if you are married, you are married. It doesn't sound like he's done anything to fix himself, just enjoying the single life, and now he gets to come home and you all have the holiday together, with you doing all the work. Sounds like a good deal...for him.
You decide what you want, and what you require him to do to come home. Don't let him dictate to you, whichever way you decide to go.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.