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User Topic: This will be my first time leaving the house since it happened
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Replying late but you DID IT! (You really could, and you really did.) Even if you don't have close friends in your town, you have us! I'm glad the babies are swimming around happily, and that probably gave you some relief to see even if it was so hard to go. One foot in front of the other, one minute at a time, Mama. We're all in your corner, and I'd like to second that there are a lot of ppl who aren't posting that are, too like the other poster (spaced who, sorry) pointed out! I lurked for *ages* but just couldn't bring myself to reply much. There are tons of us on your side.

Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So proud of you!!!! Grateful to hear the babies are doing well. You've jumped through a major hurdle when your emotions were understandably running amok. You ARE a courageous woman! You just proved it!

Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween

Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southern US
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honey I have just read your story and wish I had posted sooner to let you know that I am another one thinking of you and listening. There are thousands of us on your side and sending you strength.

I am so so glad you managed to go today and you've been very brave, keep taking everything one minute at a time. You are doing an incredible job keeping those two little babies safe and as your pregnancy progresses and they get bigger and stronger, you will get stronger too.

You DO have friends, you have us. I bet it is not just me who wishes i could give you a real hug right now but instead I will send you these: ((((HUGS!))))

Live without pretending
Love without depending
Listen without defending
Speak without offending

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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi, I just wanted to add my name to the list of people that care for you and wish to support you.

I rarely read on this forum yet as it still causes too much pain.

Your story caught my heart and I felt compelled to check on you tonight. I am so happy for you that you were able to do what you needed to for yourself and your babies.

I wish that I could hug you in real life.

I remember in the beginning it felt like I was communicating with the computer, as if the people responding weren't "real".

I have come to find that they are real and they do care. We are here to help and it really does help to post and get support.

You are in my mind and heart.

"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, November 29th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad the babies are ok. I'm proof that babies do survive the harsh reality that's happening to us on the outside. I went through the whole pregnancy myself too with no family in the United States. A group of women from church and a pregnancy center came through to support me. My little girl was born healthy and beautiful. I love her so much. Please don't be ashamed to tell people your story. People will come through for you and will help you when they know what's happening to you. You did nothinb wrong, he's so cruel and selfish. You're doing an amazing job with those babies, keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will survive!

Wishing you strength for each day!

[This message edited by BrighterFuture at 7:24 PM, November 29th (Friday)]

D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.

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Default  Posted: 2:39 AM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So glad to hear that your babies are doing well.

All you have to do is keep putting one foot in front of the other!

Thinking of you and your children

BS:ME DDay: 7/18/09 Last of TT 7/11/10
MOW's EA/PA all were my "friends" but one

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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's so validating and amazing to me that people are listening to ME, and supporting's been a long time.
Thank you, all of you.

He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private even happens to us.

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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should be supported - always!

I'm so happy to read that the babies are doing great. Wonderful news - that must have been a real relief to hear. You're doing really well. You may not think so, but you are - really well.


The stones from my enemies, these wounds will mend
but I cannot survive the roses from my friends

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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((hugs))) As long as we're here, you'll never walk alone.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel sort of embarrassed when everyone keeps saying about talking to friends and family, because I don't have any friends :P
Yes you do. You read a whole bunch of well-wishes from your many friends on your iphone yesterday at you doctor's appointment!

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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am very proud of you today! Great job. It is hard some days to put one foot in front of another...but you DID IT! I am so glad to hear the babies are doing well also.

There is support in your community. Churches are an option. If your community has mental health care available, many times there are support groups there too.

In the meantime...WE are here for you. You are a wonderful person and this should not be happening to you. You are doing an amazing job holding it together.

Me-51 BS
Him 58-WS
Married 31 yrs, together 34
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

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