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User Topic: Having really rough time right now
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My mom had to deal with becoming an empty nester at 50 as well. Her whole identity was based on being a mom, since age 17. She had to really work with figuring out who she was. And then my brother died. Ugh... yeah. I can completely sympathize with you.

Do what I did with the collectors. Save all their phone numbers in your contacts and set their ringtones to silent. Can't answer a phone you don't hear ringing. And they are not supposed to get abusive with you, either. You can report them for that.

Keep calm and carry on.

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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Naive Again)))

I wish I could give you a hug in person. And 50 is the new 40, right?

Hang in there.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I have struggled with responding for several days. I want to have the "magic words" or some uplifting encouragement that doesn't sound trite...

What I have is heartfelt sympathy and sincere wishes that things turn around for you soon. This time of year is soooooo difficult.

Bring on 2014!!

Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
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S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. Life can be so very dang complicated and difficult sometimes. I've struggled with a dark mood lately too and I understand how painful and scary that place can be.

Please take care of yourself. Really good care. Exercise every day or at least every other day for 20 minutes, it is good for the brain and the body and for mood disorders. Eat well, get plenty of vegies and fruits and lean proteins. Sleep research is showing that poor sleep affects moods, so make your best effort to get 8 hours of sleep each night.

I went to a workshop last week on improving moods and increasing happiness and there are some interesting activities you can do to improve your mood. has some ideas, research and suggestions by Sonja Lyubomirsky is available too, google her name. These things don't replace AD therapy, but can be a good thing to do in addition to your IC and any medication you might be prescribed.

Hang in there, sweet will get always does...eventually

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52

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