yup. this is why communication is so important, even when you have transparency.
Me: fretting over Christmas and money and lists and BLERGHHH!!! (I'm the worrier)
Mr Unfound: what's up baby?
Me: (spewing words, not forming sentences ) Look how much...How will we?...Ninety five...Stocking stuffers... *sob*
Mr Unfound: (he's the even keel, cool cucumber one) *takes list* oh, I'll take care of xyz, lmnop, annnnnnd, yeah, qrs.
Mr Unfound: out of the paypal account.
Mr Unfound: The PAYPAL account.
Me: Since when do we have money in the pay pal account?
Mr Unfound: since .... well for months now (explains the things he's sold)
Me: Oh. I had no idea.
Mr Unfound: You have the login and password.
Me: I know that, but you need to tell me these things!
Mr Unfound: But you have the password, I thought you checked it.
Me: Nope. Haven't in years. Actually forgot we had one.
Mr Unfound: So you don't check it?
Me: *glares at him*
Mr Unfound: So, you don't check. Why??
Me: Cause I trust you, you big fart head.
Mr Unfound: So why are you mad?
Me: Cause you didn't tell me.
Mr Unfound: But you can check anytime you want.
Me: I KNOW! BUT I TRUST YOU! I DON"T HAVE TO CHECK!
Mr Unfound: Well that would have been nice to know!
Me: So I should start checking?
Mr Unfound: Well, if you want to know how much we have in our paypal account, there it is, CHECK!
Me: I don't WANT to check damnit!
Mr Unfound: Sooooo, you're mad because you trust me and don't check those things anymore? Gheesh, it was easier when you did!
Me: Huh? You WANT me to check on you?
Mr Unfound: YES! I thought you always did. At least you'd not be freaking out about this!
Me: I'M NOT FREAKING OUT!
Mr Unfound: I can't believe you're mad because I want you to check on me, and I'm mad because you're NOT checking on me.
Me: we're pretty screwed up, aren't we
Mr Unfound: *smiling* yes, yes we are.
Transparency, somehow we're doing it right, but doing it wrong .
We both got a good laugh out of it, him more than me