I understand you concerns Blake steele but I have to say I have never seen anyone change like H is doing.
Every day he surprises me with an insight into the man he is becoming. If I wrote it all down I would be here all day but here are a few.
Really analysing what happened during the affair, not just the facts but his feelings too. Also looking into his past habits and behaviours that led him to make these awful choices.
He is imagining scenarios and taking steps to make sure he doesn't fall into the same pattern again.
He has recognised what these patterns of behaviour were.
He is watching how he interacts with women and has his guard up against anything inappropriate.
I have full transparency from him.
He finally realises what he had all along and how he nearly lost us. It breaks him to realise how much he took us for granted.
He has sold his motorbike at a knock down price to have counselling.
We spend hours each day just talking and talking some more.
He has started acting proactively. If something needs doing he notices and acts. Even things like a note for school for our son. Once upon a time it would not have entered his head. Now when I go to write one he tells me he has done it and its already in son's bag. A little thing but told me a lot.
HE basically treats me like a queen now. No shouting, no impatience, will answer questions as many times as I need to hear the answers.
Once I approached him in a calm way he opened up about his true feelings. the only reason he didn't before was the way I reacted (I noticed this not him) and he minimised to save me the pain he was witnessing.
He has read books on affairs, he has read on here although he doesn't get much time to post he points out threads and we talk about them.
he is making amends with our son. He took him to his first football game yesterday
To be frank I have never seen someone so broken pick themselves up and transform back to the person they were years ago. The man I first fell in love with and had until recent years, but unbelievably even better!
I am not blind though and if this is temporary (I don't think it is as he has been this man before) then I will leave. If I see the bad guy of recent years reappearing I will not stand for it.
I don't feel I am settling for good enough, what I am seeing is my old husband coming back to me but new and improved.
I had better stop now before this turns into another essay.