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User Topic: P.T.S.D. and anger
erzulie
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Question  Posted: 7:58 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi All!

So, I am doing pretty well these days. I got more info ... including some detail on his physical affairs (yes, plural). I am processing it all, and I think I'm doing it in as healthy a manner as possible.

I have been dreaming about him though - and I wake up so, so, SO very angry. Like, I need to scream and hit things angry. It takes me a while to calm down from the seething feeling. Hard to shake. I'm worried my poor doggies are going to wonder what is wrong with me ...

My Shrink says I have a form of PTSD. I don't trigger all the time, but there are things that cause a "traumatic response" in me. Simple things, like going to the grocery store ... I will be minding my own business, shopping, not even thinking of WH, but then suddenly burst into tears.

Is subconsciously induced anger - that is creeping in my dreams - a part of this PTSD? I want to rid myself of it, just not sure where to start with that. Maybe reading before bed?

I just want to be healthy and whole, and rid of every aspect of his toxicity in my life.


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For me, what really helped was having a physical outlet and having a creative outlet.

I ran (a lot) and took up painting.

Also, yoga, meditation, and breathing exercises.

But if yours is more severe, you may need additional help. Have you asked your shrink for suggestions on what may help?


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi erz, I am not sure how to answer this. I had PTSD and adjustment anxiety for awhile and the triggers were maddening. I never knew when, how or where they would pop up and sometimes I didn't even know why. I didn't see your DD listed so I don't know how far out you are, it takes time and I am almost completely trigger free at 2 and a half years out from divorce. The dreams still get me though. I wake up and have to take the time to recognize and sort my emotions. They can sometimes affect me all day. I do journal them and then go back and read what I wrote and see if a few days distance can give me clarity.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1781 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

First of all I am truly sorry. I loved your post because I actually grabbed the I pad to post the same because I wanted to make sure I was not alone. I do the exact same thing. I was in the middle of a biker card game last week and I just started tearing up!!! Not a good place to cry. I cry out of the blue at unpredictable times. The nightmares are constant and they are often , I wake up crying hysterical and sweating. Breathing heavy. I wish I knew how to stop them. I feel your pain , you are not alone. I am already in yoga , gym everyday , reading, boxing. No alcohol. I don't know what else to do to stop them. If you find out please let me know. All the best.


"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

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erzulie
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My (2nd) D-Day was September 5, 2013. My first D-Day was January 11, 2004 - yep, almost 10 years ago. That, however, was a minor incident, and something we spent years working on and had reconciled - successfully enough to marry in 2006. "Successfully" was my perception. Ha! What an utter fool I was on that ...

In 2003, he had a brief physical affair with a co-worker. That seems so minor now, compared to the multiple physical affairs he solicited and consummated via ashleymadison.com over the past several years, maybe even more, who knows for sure ...

So, yes, I guess relatively speaking, it is all fairly fresh. I just hate the idea of having any more of my life robbed by this - more than I've already allowed to be robbed, these past almost 11 years ...

If he gave me an STD like HIV (I won't know for sure until my 2nd follow up in February 2014) - can I sue him? Or maybe just justify killing him?

[This message edited by erzulie at 8:52 PM, November 30th (Saturday)]


A saying for my SI Family: "We may not have it all together, but together we have it all".

Fooled twice - almost exactly 10 years apart.


Posts: 3377 | Registered: Jan 2004 | From: California
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, November 30th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Okay, I can say that from the time of my DD to now, I have has to take a sleeping aid in order to avoid the worst of the angry, hurtful dreams. My therapist and my Dr. are ok with my over the counter sleep aid and I only take the recommended dose. Check with your Dr.s and this might be an option. Now my dreams are less frightening and far more insightful.
As far as the STD, check with a lawyer. They will know the particular laws pertaining to this in your State.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1781 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
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