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User Topic: Scared (female issues- possible tmi)
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Sad  Posted: 4:11 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As some of you may know, H got cancer from HPV. It was found and removed.

I have been tested over and over and everything has come back fine. I can't remember if I had a pap this year because we had so much going on.

Anyway, my periods changed and I have spotting and some other signs that match up with cervical cancer- the thing I've feared for years.

I already had an appointment to see my Dr. this Thurs., so I'm going to ask her to check it out.

I'm so scared. I've got to get a term life insurance policy in place before Thurs. I've got to re-write my will. I've had a discussion with H about how I would expect DD to be raised, should something happen to me. Do I need to put that into writing, as well?

I'm a total mess. I'm cleaning house and decorating today. I feel like I need to get it all done in case I have to have a surgery or something.


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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Tiky)). One step at a time. Go get the pap and take it from there

Breathe. Breathe.


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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k94ever
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

{{{{hugs}}}}

We will be here for you.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6580 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Tiky)). Breathe. You're in my thoughts.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((TIKY)))) Keep breathing, honey. It's really easy to go down the rabbit hole while you wait for your appointment, but try your hardest to focus on here and now, ok?

We're here. Sending you strength and healing thoughts.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had 8mm of precancerous cells removed from my cervix on Wednesday. It's scary. My doctor told me that cervical cancer is one of the slowest cancers to develop, and it sounds like you have been keeping a close eye on any potential development, so I bet if it's there, it's still early and you will be able to take care of it quickly. Good for you for being proactive and keeping an eye on it.

Healthy mojo!


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"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 6:09 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TIKY)))

Try not to panic yet! Could your symptoms be at all related to Peri-Menopause?

Hang in there.... We're all here for you!


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How old are you? If you're 35 or older, could you possibly consider this is peri-menopause?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
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dameia
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Default  Posted: 7:14 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TIKY)))

I hope that everything checks out fine and this is just a strange hiccup in your cycle. I will keep you in my prayers.


Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

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NaiveAgain
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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TIKY)))


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As long as you have had your paps when you were supposed to it won't be cervical cancer. If your older than 40 your doctor might consider a pelvic ultrasound or an endometrial biopsy looking for a uterine rather than cervical cancer. Depending on your age this could also be peri menopausal bleeding. Try not to panic.

Dr. PJ4


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((TIKY)))))

I have to agree with PJ here, the chances that it is something significantly scary, are not as high as the chances that something hormonally related is going on. There are all kinds of reasons for abnormal bleeding. Please try not to jump to the worst possible answer.

Deep breaths,and know that you have done as much as you can to protect yourself, by going regularly and watching, and getting checked out.

I had all kinds of abnormal bleeding, including bleeding throughout my entire second pregnancy. Talk about scary. But you really have to relax and wait for the Dr's appointment. (btw if you are using certain types of BC they can cause abnormal bleeding too).

((((and strength)))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, everybody!

To answer some of the questions, I'm about to turn 46, not on any kind of BC, my periods have gone from lasting three days to seven days plus, I have spotting in between periods, and a dull ovulation-like pain.

One of the biggest problems I'm having is that H had a coworker whose wife died back in 2007 of cervical cancer without ever having a bad pap. She was pregnant, started spotting, went to the Dr. and they found the cancer. She delivered the baby early and went through a major operation followed by chemo. She lived about five months post-diagnosis and she was 27.

On the other hand, I have a friend who had cervical cancer, had a hysterectomy, and is fine many years later.

It's just maddening. Thursday can't come fast enough!


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StillLivin
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

B.r.e.a.t.h.e!
First, just breathe.
I've been in this rodeo before, too many times.
Advice given to me and I'm passing on to you because it was spot on.
First, don't panic. Assume your normal routine until all tests come back. Do your research, but go on with your life as usual.
Again. Breathe.
If it is, then you need to keep it together so you can fight it. Most likely, statistically, it isn't.
You will get through this. Lean on your family and friends....that includes us at SI.
There is no sense jumping to the conclusion that it is until the fat lady sings.
Please keep us posted.
Prayers and hugs being sent your way.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh sweetie I'm gonna bet my lunch on perimenopause. 46 and have had 3 day periods until now?!?! You big bragger. You need to relax and enjoy life.
Answers tomorrow.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

46 and have had 3 day periods until now?!?! You big bragger.
I guess it gets worse from there- I have PCOS and didn't even have regular periods until recently! Maybe that's why I'm so freaked out?? Because it's suddenly just so different from what I've always known?

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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You might also have developed a fibroid. Google that. It's a benign growth if the uterus that causes painful heavy bleeding. It's the number one cause for hysterectomies not related to cancer/precancerous lesions.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, pj, I was diagnosed with a fibroid before DD was born. She was born via emergency C-section and I asked then if they saw a fibroid and they said everything looked normal. Could it be that the hormones in my pregnancy caused it to go 'dormant' for a bit?? I've always wondered what happened to it!

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unbreak_my_heart
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What PJ4 said!

That's what happened to me when I was 36.


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((TIKY)))

Positive thoughts to you!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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