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User Topic: Why do OW blogs make me angry?
LovesLaboursLost
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Stop  Posted: 8:50 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Seriously? Most of them are full of hearts-and-unicorns-affair shit AND screeds against their BHs and how horrible their marriages are. And what kills me are the people who comment things like "You deserve to be happy" "You do what you want!"

I KNOW I shouldn't read these but sometimes I post comments like, "why don't you stop cheating and leave if it's so bad?" and there's usually some long, drawn out list of justifications why it's not the right time, and finances, and the kids, and the families and blah blah.

Am I really angry at myself for being such an immature, selfish twit in the past? Or am I just a judgmental hypocrite hater?


I'm a work in progress.

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20WrongsVs1
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Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, you're totally projecting. But that doesn't mean your comments are wrong or hypocritical.


fWW: 42
BH: 52
Sweet DS & fierce DD, under 10
"Between stimulus and response there’s a space, in that space lies our power to choose our response, in our response lies our growth and our freedom." V. Frankl

Posts: 1113 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Redneck land
pointofnoreturn
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, December 1st (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think it's projecting, but it's good to see you not trying to defend OPs or anything like that.

What we did was wrong, but at least we're repentant, no?


Me- WGF 22
Him- BBF 21
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August 2011
September 26th, 2013

"A lesson is learned. Life is. Simply. There is no Death. There is no Before. There is no After. All is in Flux. Simply."


Posts: 187 | Registered: Oct 2013
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Am I really angry at myself for being such an immature, selfish twit in the past? Or am I just a judgmental hypocrite hater?
Only you know the answer to that question LLL. Have you dealt with your past? Have you been digging into yourself?

I remember having a vehement anger and even hatred for cheaters. Oh lookie. Pot, meet kettle.

When my world blew up, the focus shifted from everyone else's crap, to my own. Why did I do it, how did I get here, how do I fix it. Once I started digging in, I realized more and more how terribly broken and lost I was.

When I see active cheaters now? I feel pity. They're a walking/talking Black Hole. They're lost and don't even know it. They're running from themselves and using anyone or anything to fill that Black Hole within them. It's sad.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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