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User Topic: am i the only grinch?
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Another a Grinch here..... I have to save my money in case I need to pay a retainer fee$$$$$.

I did get the tree up, took me 2 days to get ornaments on it (after the tree stood there for 8 days). I've suggested to my oldest daughter to do the rest of the house for me. Not sure I can handle seeing the stockings hanging. I have managed to watch a couple of Christmas movies with my youngest.

Me- BS
Him - WS (the Grub)
married 28 years/4 kids(mostly grown)

"'Cause there's a side to you that I never knew, never knew.
All the things you'd say, they were never true, never true "
Set Fire to the Rain

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Default  Posted: 3:04 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sorry you all feel this way. Despite the little sadness that creeps in sometimes, I've celebrated every holiday since DDay including Father's day. I"ve faked it long enough and now I'm making it. I realized when I'm sad and miserable it's me and my children who suffer the consequences not him. In fact I did so much fun stuff stuff this summer than I ever did when I was with him. Me and my children are creating fun and new Christmas traditions. When my ex texted me to wish me a happy Thanksgiving, I didn't even respond.

D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.

Posts: 349 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio
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Default  Posted: 4:45 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I certainly understand the holidays being a downer.

I have tried to focus on the actual holiday. Thanksgiving and Christmas become less difficult - but father's Day and anniversaries are more tough.

I am finding out more and more that I allowmy relationship at that moment with him to strongly influence whether or not I enjoy a holiday. I don't want him to have that power over me.

Not saying it always helps, but I'm trying.

"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt

I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy

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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am always a Grinch and it's the only Christmas movie I have watched this year. WH#2's affair was in full swing and he gave c***face an engagement ring for Christmas a couple of years ago. To shut her up of course so he could continue to get some from her without listening to her whine about why he hadn't left me yet. So yes, the holidays for me suck and I probably will not even decorate at all. I have no one to buy presents for anymore other than a couple of friends and of course I will have to get Mr.Selfish a present or I will never hear the end of it.

M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For three years (since DDay), I had no interest in celebrating any of the holidays. But this year, I'm actually getting into the spirit. My tiny apartment is getting spruced up and I was even playing Christmas music while I was decorating. Give it time. You'll turn the corner when you're ready and able.

M - 25 yrs
DDay - August 5, 2010
Divorced - December 12, 2011
He married the OW 35 days later
"Fall seven times, stand up eight" - Japanese proverb

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