I certainly understand the holidays being a downer.
I have tried to focus on the actual holiday. Thanksgiving and Christmas become less difficult - but father's Day and anniversaries are more tough.
I am finding out more and more that I allowmy relationship at that moment with him to strongly influence whether or not I enjoy a holiday. I don't want him to have that power over me.
Not saying it always helps, but I'm trying."Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy