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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Send her the letter I wrote to her detailing his lies to her - why he keeps a friendship with her (so he can escape is real life - which he told me) and that she deserves all the shit she will soon receive in life. Then, send the letter I wrote her husband detailing the relationship his wife has with my husband. THEN, send the OTHER letter I wrote to my WH detailing his irresponsibility, laziness and failure at life thus so far.

But I won't send them. It won't change anything and won't make me feel better - just lower me to their sub-human levels.

Him:WH-40 (EA)
He left when confronted with the EA, refuses to talk about it, but cannot give me answers to my questions because he "doesn't know" anything.

Posts: 57 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
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Default  Posted: 1:34 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh my SisterM!!! I am laying here wide awake next to snoring Mr.WH laughing so hard I might fall out of bed!
I wish I had something funny....

The only thing I have is my when I am feeling naughty, I have a fantasy of hiring a couple of actors to pose as federal agents. They would be wearing dark suits and sunglasses and follow WH around in a dark SUV. Make him sweat a little. I would love to see his face when they would try and take him for questioning about some illegal, international human trafficking activities. Might be fun to see him squirm.

One other thought would have been if I would have known what was going on and somehow could have arranged that when he opened the door expecting a prostitute it would have
been ME..." why hello dear!" If I could have pulled something
off like that.....

Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 490 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm in recovery and I'd still like to out him to his own employer.

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”

Posts: 5280 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I DID post it on FB after DDay #1 because I was so angry and hurt that they could do this to me and my girls. That they both had a sanctimonious attitude that they did nothing wrong and they were "meant" for each other, despite the obvious lies and manipulation they BOTH were guilty of. NO WAY was I going to let them live in the secrecy they created and therefore could justify their actions in their own little world. I let EVERYONE know who and what they BOTH were because I wanted them both to hear it from the outside world how selfish they were both being. WS liked to blame me and put her on a pedestal. Something he could do while he believed her lies. When the real world got a hold of him and told her what a jerk she really was, he slowly realized what a jerk he was being and he could no longer blame me for what he was doing.

I will NEVER feel bad for outing them publicly. And truly, I was looking into putting a freaking billboard up in our small town with both their names on it and all her Booby pictures she posted on her FB page...of the fake boobs she *claimed* she was embarrassed about.

I still want to send a private message to all our mutual friends and tell them just what she did, because I know some of them didn't see my meltdown (it was on her page and WS's page. She promptly deleted all of her stuff and went off FB for a bit, I took it off WS's page after a day because I got my point across). I did send a private message to some, who promptly took her off their friends list and told me they kept her on there mostly to watch a trainwreck, not because they were really friends with her.

I still have to see her once or twice a week for a couple minutes, and while we both keep our distance from each other; I still have an overwhelming urge to punch her right in the f'ing face. Just seeing her in person, and knowing she was my husband's GIRLFRIEND for over a year....drives me insane.

*edited to add* I DO wish I would have sent all my cell phone records to her corporate office to show them how she uses her time at work. They would text ALL DAY LONG. I can imagine how many sales they lost because she was too into her own drama to throw cold calls out. My WS was not the only person she met through her work, so I would have loved to give names (yes I have a few) to her employer and tell them how she used her job as a dating service.

[This message edited by niaveone at 8:13 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married: 17 years
2 children
2 DDays

Posts: 255 | Registered: Aug 2013
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd love to call the local newspaper and see if they'd be interested in a story about a married high school teacher who posts pics of her droopy boobs and fat ass on AFF as well as videos of herself masturbating. She also specializes in giving blow jobs in parking lots to random men she meets via AFF.

I have the same fantasy for the Superintendent in her school district.

Ah, it felt good saying it out loud.

BS - 62
FWH - 60
Married 34 years
D-Day 2/12/12
Doing well with R

Posts: 1049 | Registered: Mar 2012
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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

To go with the bumper sticker idea, how about:
I sleep with married men
Go ahead and rear end me

^^This one would work for me.

Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would stay out all night, come home and not tell H where I had been. A month later give him a "positive" pregnancy test. Since we are not having sex I would love to see the look on his face as he processed the baby is not his. I would love to see him cry, and feel the shame and hurt of that!

Oh...and the dog poop under the door handle! Laughed my ass off.

Me BS:35
Him WS:36
Kids 10 and 3
Embracing the furture. I know that I will be great no matter what the future brings.

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