Member # 39169
| Posted: 5:38 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Wow, 7 months and 5 days after I found the incriminating phone records, it is all over. I was a good wife. I am a great mom. I am smart, funny, loyal, kind, and generous*. I am good with money, and I have a respectable job in my field. We have two honors students teens that are well adjusted. He threw away this charmed life, his loving wife, the respect of his children, and more than half of his assets for some skanky whores. I hope he cries into his lonely pillow nightly and that his house reeks of shame and lies.
I tried R. He could not stop lying and raged against me. I am glad I tried though, because I will never have to wonder if I did the right thing, if I walked away too soon. It gave him four more months to show me how messed up he is.
Thanks for all the support, SI friends.
* footnote: I have bad hair days, get in bad moods, swear too much, and have some annoying habits
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.
Posts: 553 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
Member # 33226
| Posted: 5:41 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Onward you go, triple!
You can call me NIK
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 41195
| Posted: 5:47 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you!
caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
Posts: 211 | Registered: Nov 2013
Member # 39885
| Posted: 5:53 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Don't look back. Congrats!
D Day: 6/13/13
Moving on. Every Single Day.
Posts: 493 | Registered: Jul 2013
Member # 41143
| Posted: 6:49 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Your best years are ahead! Congrats!
Me: 40's; XBS Him: 40's; XWS/NPD/SA
D-day 1: 5/2007- A #1; 7/2007 A #1 continued-R
D-day 2: 3/2013 A #2/multi-ONSs; 4/2013 A #2 continues to present
D: 7/2013 (25 yrs together; days shy of 22nd anniversary-GOAL MET!)
Our kids: teen & tween
Posts: 168 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southern US
Member # 18442
| Posted: 6:55 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
congrats on your D. I hope it brings you some peace
6/07 EX had several Emotional/sexual A
FALSE Reconciles. cheats again. D 5/09
2013- 10 month marriage &D to friend. he was a lyin, freeloadn biploar mess.
NOW? Living my life and loving it.
Posts: 660 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 34146
| Posted: 8:14 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
It seems like many of these waywards were living charmed lives and threw it all away for trash.
The good news is that it mostly (with some dips) only goes up from here!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo
Posts: 3101 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 37215
| Posted: 8:30 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations!!! I love your post too! Enjoy your new beginning!
Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
I FINALLY GOT A COURT DATE: 5/29/14!!
Posts: 1832 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 34697
| Posted: 9:21 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Welcome to your new beginning!
Posts: 4204 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Member # 36697
| Posted: 9:30 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations on losing all of that useless weight! I think you'll be amazed to see what you can do without all of that wasted flesh holding you back.
Posts: 1323 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Arizona
Member # 37895
| Posted: 9:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
I could have written every word. I just know that you are going to thrive once the initial shock wears off. We put so much energy and focus into these men who are fundamentally absent, selfish and immature.
Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.
Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
♂ New Member
Member # 39847
| Posted: 9:52 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Congratulations. I hope the future brings you happiness.
BS: Me (30s)
WW: Her (30s)
10 year marriage with 2 small children.
OM: Married coworker
DDay: May 2013
Posts: 50 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: RavenWood
Member # 38122
| Posted: 10:22 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
You have a great attitude, Trip. Congratulations!
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 10 and 13
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Posts: 1354 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Member # 37455
| Posted: 10:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
and have some annoying habits
Am I the only one thinking that I have a childish opinion of fidelity? Of course this is enough for an affair!
I am so sorry TT. You deserve so much better! Congrats!
BH 50, WW 41
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 19(Hers),DS 8 Ours, DGS 2 1/2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 2071 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 39139
| Posted: 6:46 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Me: BS 46
Him: LCB--lying, cheating bastard 50
Posts: 298 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Member # 33606
| Posted: 8:47 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
I LOVE your post!!! Congratulations.
Posts: 1433 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 36654
| Posted: 10:17 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Welcome to your new beginning!!!! I hope the future only holds good things for you and your children. (((HUGS)))
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.
Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Member # 32554
| Posted: 10:24 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
Congrats! Welcome to the other side.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 elementary school-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
Posts: 8785 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 40257
| Posted: 10:30 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
All the best there Triple!
Posts: 78 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 19258
| Posted: 11:06 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013|
bad hair days are a bitch!
I recommend a good afternoon at a nice salon to help with those
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
Posts: 8261 | Registered: Apr 2008
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