Topic: Today was our anniversary...
Member # 20082
| Posted: 9:03 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
I foolishly thought (when I planned this family vacation/anniversary trip) that it would be our "lucky number 7" and the fact that we would be in the same place we honeymooned 7 years earlier, would be OH SO ROMANTIC...Ironic is a bit more like it, since I am here with DD and husband is wherever the hell he is living out his 7 year itch, drinking (which is a new one...), and hanging out with a whole new crowd. He hasn't spoken to me in about 2 weeks, so I didn't REALLY expect anything different to happen today, but there is that pitiful, sad, hopeful, glutton for punishment inside of me that kind of hoped there would be some amazing last minute, 3rd act finale that would be a game-changer for this marriage.
Wrong...but he did send me a text to tell me that he transferred 250 bucks into his new account to pay for gas and food.
I only have two things to say...
1) Thank God Disney sells wine by the bottle.
2) In exactly two hours, this f-ed up anniversary from hell will be history.
Me: 33 STBXH: 34 DD: 8
D Day (EA): 6-19-08
D Day #2 (SA): 7-5-10
D Day #3 (EA): 11-8-13
WH moved out: 11-18-13
Moved BACK IN (because the lawyer told him to): 11/29/13.
Filed for Divorce: 12-9-13
In house separation...fun, fun, fun.
Posts: 474 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: AL
Member # 34262
| Posted: 9:16 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
I am so sorry. I know you never thought seven years ago you'd be where you are today.
Me: BS 44
Her: fWS 47 (same sex partner)
Together: 17 now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish
Posts: 1860 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
Member # 33226
| Posted: 9:20 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
(((((lisaloo))))) I'm so sorry, lisa.
Know what? Screw him. Reclaim your trip, sweetie. Make it all about creating memories for your DD.
You can call me NIK
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Posts: 22649 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40075
| Posted: 9:23 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Hang in there sister; your not alone in this one. We've all thought there would be some sort of last minute, I'd bet. Probably happens 1 out of every 1000 times.
The wine deal though---damn, that is what makes Disney awesome. Have a drink for me!
Me: 47; WW: 48
2 DS: 9, 14
Divorced and Done!--7/13
Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: KS
Member # 19595
| Posted: 9:26 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
It isn't suppose to be this way.
Do your best to get through and know tomorrow you will have survived and didn't put a hit out on his ass.
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.
Posts: 20275 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Member # 38865
| Posted: 11:32 PM, December 2nd (Monday), 2013|
Me: Awesome - 35
"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou
"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –
Posts: 716 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
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