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WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

whatever you got, send it my way, please? Meeting with STBX at 5 at the marriage counselor's and will inform him that he is a STBX.

I would hope after nearly 20 years together this all goes smoothly but then, his behavior the past year has been unfathomable to me.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 562 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yikes. Good luck!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9664 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you light.

Hope it all flows smoothly with grace and ease.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 401 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good Luck

My dog killed a squirrel yesterday. I will provide a ceremonial tossing of it's entrails into the garbage on your behalf today.

The waiting must be tough!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8440 | Registered: Apr 2008
Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck today. It's another step forward even if though it can be difficult. I hope this goes well for you.

Posts: 138 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: In a better place
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, everyone. Blessed be your dog, Hex!

The next few hours are going to be difficult. I feel as though I'm just waiting for the rest of my life to begin. One of my friends is certain that this will be really hard for him while I'm pretty sure this will come as a relief. Who knows how he will react. I just know it's not going to be my problem.

[This message edited by WeepingBuddhist at 11:49 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday)]


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 562 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just know it's not going to be my problem.

^^^ This

Best wishes.


FBS 54
Separated and Divorcing

Posts: 4130 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
hexed
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((WB))

your screen name initials are the initials of two of my SI favorites WildBananas and Wondering Bull

The next few hours will be worth the wait. My feelings have often surprised me in similar situations during the whole process. Embrace whatever those feelings are...relief, sadness, anger...whatever. Just know that you made this decision with a clear head when you weren't overwhelmed by emotions. Fall back on that knowledge if it gets tough.

Don't be surprised to see, shock, anger and sadness all from him. Regardless...you are right...not your problem! Your paths have now diverged. You get to walk your own. He can stand at the intersection and stay as he is or he can choose to grow and take his own path ... either way, his is not yours any longer

Wishing you peace and contentment at the end of this.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8440 | Registered: Apr 2008
WeepingBuddhist
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sounds like I am in good company!

I am feeling all those things. I'm sad, angry, hurt but mostly I am relieved. I thought I would be scared but no fear thus far and that surprises the hell out of me! Anxiety and I are besties, usually. Few decisions have ever felt so totally right.


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 562 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dog killed a squirrel yesterday. I will provide a ceremonial tossing of it's entrails into the garbage on your behalf today.


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


Posts: 3348 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
dmari
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you prayers and positive and clear energy. (((((WB)))))


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2195 | Registered: Oct 2012
Lostandpregnant
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope it goes as good as it possibly can <3


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

Posts: 354 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you energy!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5558 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 3:28 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's a hard conversation. Sending you lots of good mojo and peace.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
hexed
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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hope it has gone or is going well. lots of good mojo for you now!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


Posts: 8440 | Registered: Apr 2008
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers...don't know your time zone, so don't know if I missed it, if it's during, or WHAT!

Please update us when you have the opportunity....


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope everything turned out ok.....
Thinking of you.


Divorced 1/3/14

Posts: 626 | Registered: May 2011
tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you mojo-- I hope that the one thing you feel is the lightness of freedom.


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3604 | Registered: Oct 2011
IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll light a candle and send you peace. Good luck and may your path to freedom be blessed.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1754 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hoping it went well and you are out with a friend....


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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