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Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me and fwh never did big Xmas present. Little thoughtful fun gifts were always us. Last Xmas I got given an iPad 3. I was very uncomfortable about it. Just didn't sit right
And of course my spider senses were right. It was bought from guilt as he was in the middle of the fun fuck buddy early A season. (It wasn't so much fun by the spring when he ended up admitted to hospital because the psychopathic slut drove him to a breakdown). But last Christmas he was the big man with his bit on the side.
After dday and the full disclosure I wanted rid of the guilt purchase. Today I did. The money will be spent on a spa voucher for my friend who drove me to the STI clinic, an upgrade to my SI membership and the family food budget for a week.
I'm so glad it's gone.
I still feel dirty though
How come she's the whore yet I am the one who ended up feeling bought?


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
knolls
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, December 3rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I also got a guilt I pad. He was using his to communicate with his Ho. So I got one as he didn't want me snooping around on his. Well I'm keeping mine. Yes it's a trigger but I have to pick my trigger battles


I am stronger than the storm.
I take every experience in my life, no matter how horrendous it was, as a learning experience

Posts: 64 | Registered: May 2013
Shattered-Heart
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Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you.
I got an iPhone and an electric bike.
I still HATE that bike, but chose to keep the phone.
Like you, the bike didn't sit right, but he was saying with his bonus he was getting toys (ha! understatement of the year) and I should get one too. He nearly insisted, so I did, and was happy to, but spidey senses seem to almost always be right, in retrospect. He still insists it wasn't a guilt present. It so was.
Good for you on getting rid of it and using the money for good stuff! You shouldn't feel dirty at all, you didn't do anything wrong!


Me BW
Him WH
"The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage

Posts: 180 | Registered: May 2011
Jesu
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bought my WSO an iPad for her birthday a couple of years back. After DDay I discovered that she used to chat with OM and play games on it with him. Even had his birthday added to the calendar to remind her.

Yeah I asked for it back and sold the fucker...bought myself a new iPad. Mini, which I'm using to post this...


Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?

Posts: 608 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Oz
sodamnlost
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a guilt kindle fire I will be sending as a donation to SI to auction. Thanks for the reminder actually - I forgot.


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 766 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
Lostinthismess
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! I got a guilt iphone and suburban. Both are mine a little triggery, even after he swears it wasn't guilt. Whatevs.


Dday- 4/4/13
fwh- harrypotter
'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 330 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Ca
Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG I also got my fWH an iPad two Christmases ago when he was in the A. He was so excited to show the whore. Apparently he forgot to tell her his wife gave it to him. Motherfucker. Last year I got him Zero. This year probably zero too.
Fucking bitch knew he was married but didn't ask him because it would ruin their moment. Ugh I hate them both. I can never seems to forget their messages.
Anyway now I use it for work. But I do hate it.


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

Posts: 515 | Registered: Aug 2013
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My cheap ass WH has been very generous with his wallet since DDay. I am ok with that. He spent a lot of money to pay the hooker, so... He needs to spend money on me, now. Years of, no that's too expensive and wait until we have more savings... You better beleive he's making sure i never wash a dish by hand again! I will finally gey my dishwasher!


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
Mack9512
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, December 8th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a new fence, a new sectional sofa and an iPad as consolation prizes my FWH's affair. He bought me all of those BEFORE taking thousands of dollars from our accounts. I got all of the new junk and no ability to pay the bills. I still want to get rid of the sofa but we are still recovering from his stupidity.


"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 382 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
TheThreeYearFool
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a guilt Kindle Fire, and a couple of guilt handbags including a genuine Kate Spade. There were also gifts of fancy shoes and encouraging me to buy fancier clothes.

I also inherited his fancy PC monitor when he got a huge new one... which I didn't know was a gift from OW until her parting shot email.

OW with her trust fund had an essentially limitless budget, so I think he felt some guilt seeing her with her expensive clothes, shoes, and handbags and me with my Target handbags and cheap shoes.

WH swears he bought me nothing out of guilt. Yeah right.


Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?

Posts: 160 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: United States
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got a self-operating vacuum cleaner. So I could continue to 'sit around and do nothing', and still have clean floors.

My H wasn't in the guilt stage yet, as the A wasn't yet a PA. He was still looking for reasons to justify crushing the only human being who had ever completely loved and accepted him just as he is. Fat, lazy and 'let myself go' were rolling through his mind on a regular basis - even though none of those are/were remotely true. Sorry for not having 50 billion hours to sit around waxing, primping and painting swirlies on my nails.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 792 | Registered: Jul 2013
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG, PlainPain. EXACTLY.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
sweetsteps
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I got an IPAD for Valentines day....my WS hates Valentines Day this would be about 9 months after DDay...so pretty sure it was a guilt gift....I'm still keeping it though why punish myself out of my new toy

Posts: 11 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Canada
LostSamurai
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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am was a huge gamer and movie buff. I am going through all the gifts she got me and getting rid of them. 2 years worth.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1035 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm quite happy with the post dday guilt gifts. It's the during the A "I will buy marathon off with this" iPad I wouldn't keep. Sold and money deposited in my account
Time to upgrade my SI membership


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
steadfast1973
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Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, December 9th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I barely got a smile while he chatting up the prostitute...


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2256 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
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