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User Topic: Did any of u decide to divorce even when WS wanted to reconcile?
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, December 5th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My response to anyone who asks if my XWS wanted R is this "yeah he said he wanted a lot of things, but he didn't show it."
Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.
But I do know exactly where you are coming from.
I told him the other day its like I came home to find our house reduced to ashes and him standing in the ruins saying "I know we can rebuild!" All the while he's flicking the lighter he used to torch our lives.

If you know he can't do the hard work it will be obvious to others in time as well.
If it isn't, it still isn't your problem.
(I keep telling myself the same thing. It is hard.)

I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13

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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


She kept up her deluded fantasy bullshit with her neurotic adultery partner even after d-day. She just tried to take it underground thinking I wouldn't know. I reached the point of no return and filed for divorce. Didn't say anything to her about it. I just filed without saying a word. Once she got served I started getting the tearful phone calls asking if we could fix this. No. Followed through with the divorce.

I Divorced Her.

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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did! XWH wanted to R, really bad, but he gave up on doing the real work about 6 mos. out from Dday. I gave him another 2-1/2 years to do something. I was a mess.

June 29, 2013 I gave up and filed.
Sept 25, 2013 I was D.
Oct 7, 2013 I moved into my new house with DS.

Right now, he is a ball of nothingness. Gave up on everything. Won't take care of himself, his place or even attempt to pay bills on time. Won't keep track of his weekends with DS. Just stopped. Sad.

"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

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