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User Topic: The smear campaign. Who all has been through this?
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Default  Posted: 4:00 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My WH has been telling people for years that we haven't had sex in years. I'm just finding all this out now. All his buddies feel sorry for the poor sexless guy. The fuckbuddies do too, guess that's why they had sex with him. He's told them all he loves me, but needs sex - wtf! Seriously messed up.

Not sure when the D will be filed, I'm calling the JAG on Monday (WH is retired from the AF).

Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
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Default  Posted: 4:31 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Honestly, I have no idea. If he's tried to smear me to his family, they haven't made me aware of it. I am still in contact with his mother. He has a whole new slew of friends in his new frat-boy life and I am pretty sure that I've been painted as a vindictive, needy, bitch.


Fuck him.

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

Posts: 1575 | Registered: Aug 2010
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Default  Posted: 4:50 AM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((BAB61))) JAG up!
(((Every one who is suffering)))

Let me unbreak your hearts. Just a little.

At T-giving, out of the blue, my son says; "Dad, I will never cheat. You know why? Because of you. What you went through."

I just stammered something, I don't know what, then he says;
"...and I always respected you, because you never talked bad about mom."

See, you think you're smeared with lies, but you're not. Your heart's skin is oiled with truth and that shit don't stick.

Posts: 6674 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9856 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, December 7th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NG, what an informative and eye opening article. That fits my xWH and what he has done to a T. I got to a point where I don't care what he has said or who he says it to. I will live my life and I don't need those people to believe me for me to know who I am. I follow the saying, live your life in such a way that if someone were to talk bad about you, no one would believe it. I have found that to be true, people have stopped believing what he says because they do know me and he has no evidence of his accusations. I don't respond to crazy.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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