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User Topic: Wh and I were talking last night - he asked this question - What
stunnedin12
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

is MY definition of "Love"? I told him I needed to have time to think on that - he is supposed to be getting back to me with his definition.

So?

My first post in reconciliation and I need to post and run since dd has an appt.

I do know that I do not love wh in the sense of 'hearts and flowers'. But, that question has me floored. What is love?

I feel like I'm back in jr. high.

Otoh, it's good that we are talking future instead of ending our marriage.


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 471 | Registered: Jan 2013
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My H and I are actually going to start doing this. We're calling it 'word of the week'. Each week we are going to pick an emotion or relationship word. On the first day, we're going to take 20 mins to individually reflect on what that word means to us, then get together and discuss. Over the rest of the week, we're gonna think about it when we can and jot down anything we want to change/add. We're trying it out as a way to learn about ourselves and each other and build our relationship. Also, serves as a good way to transition us into meaningful conversation that isn't about the A.

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TheAmazingWondertwin
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks MLM- that is a great idea and I think I will steal it from you!
In my work we all it "operational definition"- we need to all e on the same page when we use these words So that all parties are clear on what we are talking about.


Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
stunnedin12
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Musiclovingmom-

I just might bring that idea up to wh


ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Not sure, but trying I guess.

Posts: 471 | Registered: Jan 2013
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