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Chria
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Frustrated  Posted: 9:44 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been off of SI for awhile ( ), but I know I can count on all of you when I am in a real bind.

My girlfriend and I have been going strong for 5 years now!! However, I have no idea what to get her for Xmas. For starters, she is a successful professional....makes good money, no kids, owns her condo, etc. So she is always tough to buy for. Last year, I got her SCUBA diving lessons (which she loved ).

She has tons of jewelry so that is out of the question; as is most household and kitchen stuff (she already has everything).

HELP!!!!


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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

CHRIA!!!!!

How about a trip to a place she can show off those SCUBA skills?

Good to see you!

AJ's MOM


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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Treat her to a day at the spa. I don't know any woman who wouldn't appreciate that!

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Default  Posted: 10:00 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A spa day sounds like a wonderful idea.

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scuba trip. New beach bag, new beach towel, pretty sandals (if you know her size) and 2 tickets in the bag.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SCUBA Trip!!!!

If that's out of the question, then a spa day is always good.

I also am always happy to get a high end quality leather bag.


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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Scuba trip. New beach bag, new beach towel, pretty sandals (if you know her size) and 2 tickets in the bag.

great idea!

have you asked her what she wants?


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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

or if experience gifts are a hit with her... what about a parachute jump?

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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know what area you're in, but a hot air balloon trip (perhaps over wine country) is an absolutely fantastic way to spend a day!


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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I vote for the scuba trip too


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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't like heights, but the hot air balloon ride would still e swoon worthy to me


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Chria
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great ideas...but let me explain why this is so hard this year:

1) We just went on a Scuba trip (St. Lucia!). Since we just came back, we self-imposed a $200 spending limit for Xmas...so a trip is out of the question.

2) She does her own spa treatments once a month.

3) I am 6'6" tall...and let's just say that I am too large for a hot air balloon.

C'mon. You all had some good ideas there (even if I did shoot them down). Keep 'em coming....


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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chria!!!

What about a stain glass class? They have them here at Hobby Lobby. Like 6 classes for $200.00 and it's all hands on. You actually make your own piece of art Who knows...she may really like it!!


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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

hmmmm.... would a charitable gift be something she is interested in? Maybe give $150 to a cause shes passionate about, and then a token gift from you (some great coffee, wine, etc)

A bottle of wine or good liquor? Something that is meaningful to you guys (like, a bottle of wine from the year she was born?)

A trip to a vineyard/ a wine tasting

lingerie?

its hard when you have everything you want/need! But that's a good problem to have


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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can bust the budget a little bit and get a new hand bag.

Or some very nice perfume, paired with something else.

Did you buy all your own gear? I was thinking a regulator but that is more than $200. But maybe something else?

Cashmere sweater

A personalized phone cover?

Books? Magazine subscriptions? A down payment for a trip to Paris?


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ascian
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Does the have a Pinterest account? That's been my go-to for ideas on my wife lately.


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cooking class
painting class
tickets to a show
tickets to a concert


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Do you have a great picture of something or the two of you in St Lucia? If so, get it put on canvas and framed. Can do for under $200.

I would do something sentimental related to that trip to show her it was special for you as well.

Maybe recreate a dinner that you had there, complete with a kiddie pool, sand on your patio, fake palm tree and then a photo book, or pic on a mug, or a locket with a picture that means something to the 2 of you. See a sea turtle or a seahorse?

Does she have a pandora bracelet, if so a related charm.

$200 is a good amount if it is used in a romantic gesture.

If she likes to cook, a seafood cookbook, some specialty ingredients, maybe a class in making sushi or something.
Maybe a gift certificate for a private chef to come cook for her and friends or for the 2 of you.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A class of some sort together. Some areas offer cooking classes for couples that would be a lot of fun.

Can't do a hot air balloon rode for $200 around here anymore so even of you werent so dang tall I'm not sure that's an option.

How about hiring a service for something she dreads like housekeeping or laundry?


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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, December 6th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice pair of sexy boots or a purse. If she likes those things..you can never have enough shoes/boots and handbags!


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